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Do men pay attention to women's "imperfections" during sex?

I've heard my friends, sisters and cousins when they speak about how embarrassed and insecure they've felt during sex. Most of those insecurities come from the thought that they might not look desirable enough for their man. For example, a week ago my sister mentioned she hoped her husband never noticed her weight gain, her cellulite or the pregnancy scars in her belly during sex because she was embarrased for him to see them. I saw her so worried about this, that led me to ask this question. Do men even pay attention to those "imperfections" that the majority of women worry so much to cover?

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  • Most of us have working eyes, so, yes, we're going to see and notice those things to some extent. But just because we can observe these things doesn't mean they especially bother us. I'm sure they bother a few shallow people, and I'm sure there are extreme situations where, yes, it might bother a more average person, but on the whole, stuff like this isn't overly concerning to us.

    I mean, what woman wouldn't like an Adonis with tons of confidence and piles of cash? Ideals are nice, and most of us guys, in some mythical "ideal world," would enjoy having a Victoria's Secret Angel or whatever for an SO - but in the REAL world, most of us realize that our girl is a normal person and is likely to have some body flaws - just like WE probably do. And we're okay with that. If we like the girl, we're going to accept her body and its flaws and still find her attractive in most cases (again, outside of some extreme situations).

    In the vast majority of cases, you women are far harsher critics of each other than most men will EVER be.

  • Do men see them? sure. And we love every inch of those "imperfections" because they belong to the woman we love. Would your sister dump her husband if she gained some weight? or had a scar? If anyone can say yes to that, they don't belong with anyone. Men only care about getting off and getting her off during sex. but after sex, we care about the person we love.

    • thanks. I see a typo "Would your sister dump her husband if HE..."

    • I highly doubt it, I just think she's hasn't built so many insecurities after her pregnancy. And her husbands distance just adds up to the problem.

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  • I think that men do notice our imperfections but don't obsess over them like we do. The first time I slept with my friends with benefits I felt insecure because even though I'm skinny, I still have a little bit of flab leftover from having had a baby. He put my legs up on his shoulders during sex, I got really insecure feeling because I felt it only emphasized the flab on my belly. I put my hands over it to cover it. He realized what I was doing, grabbed my hands and moved them away, and told me that I shouldn't worry about it. Whenever I started to try to cover my belly up, he'd grab my hands and hold them down so I couldn't. Eventually I didn't worry about it anymore and just relaxed and enjoyed the moment.

  • I think men notice, but keep in mind, men like women have issues of their own to tend to... a lot of men are self conscious about recent weight gain, or loss of gym time, or a little extra at the belt line, etc... I feel like this, if a person cares about their partner, have a discussion if something is bothering you. IF not, embrace them. For the most part if we are all honest anyway, a man just wants to get to the bottom line half the time... lol

  • I doubt it. The most a guy is doing is trying to get his rocks off and call it a day. I am a female, and I do notice a guys imperfections sometimes, but I dont dwell on it. Its funny how men can talk negatively on a females bodies, but we can do the same when it comes to them. ughh so annoying.

    • I personally don't complain about her imperfections. For example, she has these big boobs. Love 'em. One is easily bigger than the other. I don't complain. I just look at it as having one bigger and one biggest. so I can have one for whatever mood I'm in.

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  • My attention is always on my partner. Depending on the mood, I sometimes like to spend a lot of time looking at and touching my S/O all over her body. This means I might notice her 'imperfections'. But I love her body, and so any 'so-called-imperfections' certainly aren't a turn off.

  • If he is having sex with her then even if he's noticed, he doesn't give a damn or he doesn't consider them "flaws". If they were a problem for him, he wouldn't be with her. Insecurity is such a turn off though, so they should just be happy about what they have, not whinge about what they think other people should have a problem with.

  • I know it is about as corny as Kansas in August, but I really love, and agree with the John Legend song "All of Me".

    'Cause all of me
    Loves all of you
    Love your curves and all your edges
    All your perfect imperfections

    When I comes to my significant other, especially when we have sex, her "imperfections" are still "perfect" to me.

    For example, sometimes she talks about how she wishes she had bigger breasts. I tell her, She is beautifully to me as she is, but if she wants to do something about it, I will lover he just the same.

    Again, I know it sounds corny and old fashioned, but its the truth. When you love someone their "imperfections" are what make them who they are, and they are perfect as they are.

    • This is adorable.

    • @QueenBeeJay Sorry, I know, which is why I hated saying it.

    • Hahaha. Don't be sorry!

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  • If your man is already attracted to you, for the most part little things won't turn them off during sex. I definitely recommend good grooming habits though. You deserve to feel good and he deserves the best of you. :)

  • In short no. So if my partner is wanting to have sex with me and is into it, then in turn I am into her (no pun intended) what I mean to say is yes I'm aware of imperfections, but it is not any sort of issue for me, I am focused on giving her pleasure, as much pleasure as I can, because the better she feels the better I feel and the more I enjoy it. :-)

  • Just from my observation, guys don't tend to notice little imperfections on a naked girl. They just see a naked girl lol.

  • I don't think they do

  • From what I have heard from my freinds and family is that the guy loves those imperfections more. Especially after she had his child.
    Also try to turn that around. Do you think women care about a man's imperfections during sex. Most likely not. We all worry about the things we hide from others and when we have to reviel them we get even more worried which is normal.

  • They probably notice but when they're horny they're horny they just want to cum he get his and you get yours

  • There's no "I'm a kissless virgin, so I can't answer that." option

  • The common man, no; we do that with porn. The shallow man, possibly, if he can even get past the pleasure and excitement of sex. However, the good man, no. He will love you for whom you are, not what you could be. ;)

  • I'd surely hope not, I've got quite a lot of insecurities.

  • I can't speak as "we men", but personally I don't. If I really like the girl, which is the only case I would be intimate with her, some physical "imperfections" doesn't mean anything or doesn't make me want her any less.

  • you ask me about imperfections when all i can think about is how to make this feeling last forever?

  • This is a silly question.

    No guy has time to be looking all over your body like TSA, while banging you.

    Most guys don't notice your imperfections because, we aren't perfect either.

    It's just when you're in public and you think people are judging and watching you... they are not.

    It's in your head!

  • I think you should just concentrate on the sex, the man likes you enough to get into bed with you, and by the time they're going at it I don't think they'll look down and say "ew look at that imperfection, I'm going to pull out right now because I'm so disgusted". Don't overthink things like this, nobody ever benefits from it, least of all you so I would just lay back and enjoy the sex.

  • If he is paying attention to your imperfections then he is not perfect for you. especially during sex. energy should be spent pleasing the partner not checking for superficial carbon vessel marks.

  • no we accept who they are

  • It's very rare.

  • We don't notice those things during sex, don't worry.

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