sometimes i miss hanging out with female friends, but at this moment i am on my own. I used to have friends.
I have one friend who never wants to hang out in my home but Always wants to go out to dinner like twice a year, i never hear from her again and the meetings always feel like a bussines meeting.
I had one ''best'' friend who never really respect my boundaries and was pretty narcisstic, she used to call us best friends but she was only there with me when she wanted to have fun but she wasnted someone i could call in the middle of the night. We had a petty argument and she blocked me and dropped me just like that.
I had one friend who i used to go out with all the time but she was very aggressive and just a bad person, she attacked me while she was semi drunk. I dropped her immediatly.
I have one friend who i can only call because she isn't the most social person and just hangs out with her boyfriend, like she drops her girlfriends for her boyfriend. She isn't really fun.
At 25, i feel so lonely and sometimes i get down because i miss that female bonding time, my sisters are estranged so we dont talk anymore (and no its not possible to contact them)
What can i do? and why do i have such bad luck finding friends, its like its Always their way and no one sincerly cares about me.
Most Helpful Guy
If I were you, I would try to get into hobbies where you can be around other people and meet other people. You could join a team sport with make and female team mates, just sign up as a single player and you'll ht put onto a team maybe.
But if you have hobbies you can do by yourself, that is also fun. Still lonely but you don't notice as much because you are busy. Plus it makes you more curious to learn, more interesting to others when you meet them and just gives you something to do.
That's what I did, is he second thing, I was always into music, and when I had friends they got I to guitar and so did I. But eventually I became a loner, and was even having a rough time making friends at work. I just didn't connect with them and I was super shy. But one day I quit working for a while and found a course to learn how to make a guitar, so I took it, and it was only two months, but I am making another right now. It gives me a lot to think about at least.
I am kind of shit at it because I buy cheap equipment, and tools that sort of fuck up my work so it's taken me a long time and I've had to redo so many parts which is discouraging, but also keeps me busy to correct past mistakes or learn a better way to don't.
I also play bass, guitar, and I just started playing electronic drums, so I can put drum tracks into songs I write. I am a shitty singer, but someone's in certain songs my voice is alright. But writing lyrics can help with frustrations and even if hey don't make it into an actual song it can help get your shitty feelings out of your head and into something else. Even if you're just expressing it to yourself it helps. And it doesn't have to be songwriting, that's just my thing because I played instruments first. You could get a notepad or write a diary or whatever.
Anyways that's what I would do. Good luck! But also feeling crappy about it doesn't help, I know.0
Most Helpful Girl
Whether it's online or by a family member, Id greatly encourage going SOMEWHERE to find new friends as soon as possible. I have a small group of close friends, but I tend to isolate myself naturally and get really lonely and sad when I don't have company for a certain period of time. I would find some new friends to spend time with ASAP so that you don't become too lonely. I'm sorry this isn't very helpful because my first answer is always "talk to people at school/college" but that most likely does not apply to you. Go out to places where you know other people have a mutual interest to make friends.0