Most Helpful Guys
I am sorry to say, but that is NOT friend material. At all. There is absolutely NO call for that whatsoever. ESPECIALLY coming from a man (I can only assume this is the case). As a guy to a woman: that kind of passive aggression sends up a HUGE red flag for me. Real men DO NOT sexually harass a woman like that. EVER. For ANY reason. Particularly one who considers you his "friend". Sexual harassment is a sign of dominance and control. Two things that you should be HIGHLY wary of. Those are not good qualities in ANY person. Particularly from someone who obviously finds you attractive, but has chosen to go against your will and violate your privacy like that. That is completely unacceptable behaviour and you deserve so much better than that. Allow me to be clear: this is NOT "just playing around". That's just what he is saying to you to "justify" his actions to do this to you, just so he can get a sexual rise from doing this to you. Please, have the strength and self-respect for yourself to not allow him to do such a thing to you any longer. My suggestion would be to drop him as a friend immediately and never talk to him ever again. You don't need that kind of negative attention in your life, and forbid that he ever does anything worse if you say no again in the future. Guys like this are NOT to be played with. This isn't a game for him. Any guy who does that may be willing to do something worse, because any decent man would EARN your love and respect first. He obviously does not care to earn it, so he has decided to take what he sees as "his". If you were my sister, I'd be telling you the same thing. Please, from another guy who sees these kinds of behaviours in other guys, this is not a good situation. Please end it before it gets worse. For your sake, please. YOU deserve better than this!
Don't hasitate to kick 'em in the balls.
Most Helpful Girl
say that that's bullshit and leave the friendship forever or report it