How do you handle a backstabbing family?

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  • End with them I caught my ex girlfriend with my cousin who I was close with I haven’t spoken to either them since.

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    • Good for you with a Grudge Bearing spirit!!! xx

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  • You don't. You fucking get away feomy the family. Best thing I ever did.

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    • I'd be the same if it was my mum. But that's not being strong willed, that's not being sucked into drama. Thayts common sense.

    • Common Sense which I am Learning and being as Wise as I am, Is why they are all Jealous of me. xx

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  • Cut them out of my life.
    Sadly the one in my family is my mother. I’ve not spoken to her for 3 years now.

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    • My Mom may be Dying in the Hospital. But we Now have Made Peace. I am Trying to Fly out to Her now and The family is Trying to STOP ME. xx

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    • @FunkyMonkee I tried but she Never would Lissen on Going to a Specialist. xx

    • Paris, you’ve made up, she’s you mum. Ignore them and go.

  • You cut them out of your life and don't look back, ever.

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  • Depends how deep the wound, but try and extend an olive branch and if that fails, for your sanity have as little contact as possible with them

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  • I have a narcissistic, backstabbing family. You know what I do? I tell them nothing about my personal life. The less they know the less they have to stab me in the back with. Let them get on with it! the only reason they are how they are is because they hate themselves.

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    • That sounds like Mine. However, I just found out Today, My Mom is Not coming Home from the Hospital. I have to "Bond" With my own Narcist Sister who is still Finding Me a Helping Hand. For Now anyways. xx

  • ah gee Paris. I didn't know
    I feel for you :(
    Just continue to do what you are doing.
    Being gracious and nice to your internet friends.
    That's a pretty good tonic for your problems with your family.

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  • I stayed there but I just don't care anymore. Like I don't care about anyone or anything. If I'm not in the mood I won't even answer their texts. And when they'll be old I won't care the slightest.
    "Don't count on me for anything" even though I didn't say it out loud, I act as if I did.

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  • Simple- avoid associating with them as much as possible. Just because they're family doesn't mean you have to put up with their nonsense

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    • I finally Let my Heart of Gold "Get Old."
      Thank you. xx

  • Let them go, because they aren’t good for you. Live ya life, have fun, be successful. And once they come running back don’t accept them back in. Only person that’s going to get hurt is you!

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    • Welcome to Gag Town and Best of Luck.
      This is my Usual Good Greeting for a New Person who comes on and with this, I see a Master in the Future. xx

    • Awe thanks

  • Having dealt with this myself, I turned away from them and no long come into any contact with them. May seem harsh but it worked very well for me

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  • I have a brother like that. My solution was to simply put some distance between us. We don't talk, we send each other happy birthdays and season's greetings, and it's better that way.

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    • My Sister will Get her More Happy's and Seasons'" More One day, bae... xx

  • I don't deal with them I cut them off. Just because we're family doesn't mean I have to deal with your shit

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  • My aunt and cousin absolutely hate me. We just pretend each other dont exist at family functions. Works pretty well.

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  • My wee sister absolutely hates me and is nasty to me and has always started on me since we were teenagers. I hate her back so I avoid her.

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    • My own Middle Sibling is Like this too, It is Jealousy about You. Now I Find I have to Bond with my Own from my Own... My Mom is Dying. xx

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    • Thank you! I'm doing the best I can, but haven't been able to get a job in nearly 4 years! The first year was because I was "laid off" and had to take care of mom, anyway but, ever since she died 2 years ago, I can't SHIT!!! It's like how girls don't want me, even though I'm the kind of guy they're looking for... when I go to work, I go TO WORK!! I'm not there to fuck around all day, I have better things to do with my time! I prefer to bust ass at work! But, even with those great work ethics, the only people that GET hired are lazy assholes that want more money for doing next to nothing!!
      At one of my last jobs, I was only able to come in for 4 hours a day instead of 8 because mom had her stroke the year before and my brother had just killed himself, so I had to take care of her first thing in the morning. This woman at work asked one of my bosses why they don't fire me for only working 4 hours a day. He told her, "Because he does more work in 4 hours than YOU do in 8!!". LMAO!!

    • I haven't been able to get any government help, either! I HAD help until a year ago when they took it off of me!! I've been trying to get it back ever since, but they won't give it to me!! Thankfully, I've got a part time job, now, and I'm going to start getting other help starting next week. Since I don't spend all that much (groceries, bills, an occasional nick-nack), I should have a nice load saved up in next to no time!

  • Put a crossbow bolt into your judgmental father's abdomen while he's taking a shit.

    Sleep with your good-looking twin brother but then make fun of him when he loses his right hand.

    Have sex with your cousin but then play mind games with him until he decides to give up all his property in this world (maybe even give it to you) before joining an ascetic monastery.

    Send mercenaries to kill your incredibly ugly younger brother because he's the only moral one in the family.

    Just some ideas to get you started.

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  • There is really nothing you can do about them. However, i would recommend talking to them, and if it is beyond the point of repair, then close off communication with them. It will be hard, but it is doable.

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  • I wouldn't talk to them anymore. at all. They lost you with their actions. What they did anyways?

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    • I wish I had all day and then Some, hun, To Explain. maybe get my new Book that will Be out. xx

    • What book? you sell books?

  • I feel like this question needs more detail in order to be answered correctly.

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  • I ignore them, it seems that when you ignore them it tends to sting much more than feeding their malcontent ways.

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  • Just don’t hand them the dagger to backstab you with, as in don’t tell them anything they could use against you

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    • Thank you, Princess. I Pulled out the Dagger and Now... They are feeling God's Wrath. xx

  • They basically cut themselves off. They refused to talk unless we agreed with everything they think and say. Not happening!

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  • Mom is passive aggressive, I learned to call her out when she starts. This shuts her up very quickly.

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    • My Mom is in a Cancer ward with no More ciggies... The Lion's Mouth has Shut Mrs. Crouth. xx

  • Staying away from them and we might be blood related but family is more to me and I do call people family who aren't even related with me

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  • My mother raised me to be forgiving and never burn bridges unless they're really hurting you, but I don't really know your situation so it's up to you to decide how much you can take.

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  • That's a good question. First thing that comes to my mind is I don't. Meaning I would cut links if it was real bad. It depends on how they betrayed too...

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  • I ran away from mine at 17... just run as far as possible lmao

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    • lol So did my Sister Mean Donna Jean but Now she got her G-MAN BADEGE BACK. xx

  • Depends on how deep the wound is. My mother cut off all her back stabbing relatives.

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    • I bet Mom is still Cutting them off, Probably More in Store. Good for "Her-urt."xx

  • Have someone inject a nice hot bullet into each of their heads!

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  • I honestly ignore them x10000 until they apologize.

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    • I say I am So Sorry it has Come to This, I am Pissed. xx

  • Don't participate in there bullsh-t.
    If need be don't communicate.

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    • Seems like the Hospital is Telling me More in Store Now... xx

  • say fuck it and learn to be selfe dependant. cut them off until they come to you, and you think it is good for your mental health to welcome them.

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  • Cut them out of your life permanently and completely

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  • If they continued the backstabbing I just leave them alone and not talk to them people are going to talk shit so let them!

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    • I could always Feel no Zeal Behind my Back as they YACK. xx

  • Cut them out of your life completely, and get as far away from them as you can.

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    • I have Moved which is One big reason I am Being Backstabbed. xx

    • Just tune it out, ignore them, and get on living your life and do what makes you happy.
      Living well is the best revenge.
      I've been at it for several decades.

  • You don't, you get rid of them, you have no obligation to anyone, not even family.

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  • You take Caesar’s sword and stab em at the back while they would turn and say “Et Tu Brute” 🤣

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  • Never have a contact with them and stay away from them..

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  • I cut them out of my life. And man, do I feel better for doing so.

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  • I don't talk with my family for that very reason. Cut it off fine better.

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  • Well I mean you should never abandon your family but you can always take a "strategical retreat" and give them some time.

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  • I cut them out. If family backstabs me, they lose their access to me.

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  • i could not cut them of , so i live the pain of it and i feel regret :(

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    • Do it Before you are Old and Grey, bae, God will One day Forgive you for it because you Have Tried and Cried. xx

  • Stay away from them as much as possible. Good thing I don't have such a family.

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  • Cut them out of my life entirely and haven't looked back.

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  • My folks rock, my uncle and his kids rock, and I'm an only child. I can't relate.

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  • I don't them bother me about anything that's how some family is

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  • Be more conscious of what information you share with them.

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  • I'm a saint from inside... nothing. I let the karma to stab around.

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  • The only way to handle backstabbers is to keep an eye on them from a safe distance.

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  • Fam is a fam... Never ditch them, a dose of their own poison.

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  • Family is family, talk with them
    and figure it out.

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    • I have Tried and Still this Sucker Tries and Tries. xx

  • Leave the assholes. From long hellacious experience, they don’t change and it makes u crazy

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    • Man, You are So Right!!! xx

    • Take advantage of my painful experiences so u can avoid my mistakes. I’m here to share to help the young folks!

    • Thanks, bae. lol Call me. xx

  • What happened hun who's doing the backstabbing in your family?

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    • Tiger, One day when I Finish "Will and Testament" About a Dysfunctional Family, You will See.
      Money is the Root of All Evil. xx

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    • I haven't even told you the story on her and what she did to me and my brother. She destroyed my life our lives

    • I gave you just a little sneak preview

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