Hanging out topless, what’s the big deal?

The other night, 2 of my closest female friends and I worked out for about an hour and a half. Another friend was missing but came later. We then went to one of their houses because her parents have a sauna. Even though we are close, we were proper with a towel, but didn’t have anything to cover our chest.

So we got done hanging there, showered (no not together guys) and just kinda chilled without putting on a shirt. We put our short shorts on, and just chilled, talked, made some pizza rolls and did our nails. The third friend that was supposed to be there didn’t show up until later and was all freaked out we were topless. Like, none of us had any issue with it, we are all grown and have seen it, what’s the big issue with it? Last summer we did the same thing on super hot days at my house, since I live in the country and my parents are out. Like, sitting on the deck, getting some sun, drinking lemonade and maybe grilling. Who cares?
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Sorry. I meant to say we didn’t shower together. So let’s not get weird. And basically the third friend was freaked out for the most part about us being topless.
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Most Helpful Guys

  • It's a controversial subject with multiple perceptions attached to it.

    I don't see it an issue. Specially that you guys are close friends and have a complete understanding with each other. But honestly, i still wouldn't find it an issue even if males were involved. As long as there is understanding, trust and maturity. To me, it's a normal part of human body and no big deal at all. We all seen it, we all know about it.

    The issue comes with the controversy that surrounds nudity and then specifically female's breast.

    One side of the story is cultural appropriations. In some cultures bare breast is considered nude and therefore, indecent for women.

    Then there is a psychological point of view. Because of these cultures and traditions, many people didn't got used to seeing bare breasts outside of sexual context. So they freak out, feel uncomfortable and feel weird when they face such a scene. They are facing a scene where their mind didn't captured so often. So they become defensive against the culture they've been raised in.

    Moreover, then there comes the female breast itself. Which there is a discussion if breasts are sexual or not. Which in my personal opinion, breasts are sexual because they simply contain sexual nerves although, the modernized society over-sexualizing the female breast and that's bad. But some people believe that's not the case and they feel female's breast must be covered due sexuality. Which this impacts everyone regardless of gender. Many females been raised in these cultures and they feel weird if their breast is not covered up even in all-female environment.

    Basically, it's mostly matter of culture and mentality.

    And personally; as much as female breast attracts me as scientifically it supposed to. I find it a normal organ and it's normal to be topless. There is nothing way too special about it. We just need to remove the sexual lens and try to take control of our perspective.

    • I agree on removing the sexual lens. It’s probablh why we don’t invite the third friend over in the summer

    • Glad to know that! removing that lens helps a lot! our minds could be a lot healthier while interacting with each other. This reminds of me of another subject that some people believe males and females can't be friends. This is a prime example of looking at everything sexually. If we stop thinking and seeing each other as sexual objects, we can feel superbly comfortable around each other and our naked body. That would be a good idea if she makes you guys feel uncomfortable. Although, you can talk to her and see if she is flexible enough to experience a new vision and expand her mindset. But if she can't, then her absence would be positive for you guys since she doesn't share the same comfort and relaxation.

    • I agree. My 2 closest friends and I are topless a lot in the summer.

  • Nothing wrong as long as all the people involved are of legal age and comfortable with the situation. Society has sexualized women’s breasts and it’s unfortunate.

    • Thanks. It was all legal. Nothing awful or sexual. Just casual hanging out

    • I think casual nudity is healthy and helps remove the stigma of sexuality that always goes hand in hand with being nude.

Most Helpful Girls

  • It's not something I typically do, but I don't see the big deal about it. Maybe she just wasn't expecting all of you to be topless when she arrived. Did she calm down quickly?

    • She wasn’t expecting it, but she knows we do hang out that way. It took her probably 30 mins or so to calm down.

    • That's kinda weird. Did you guys put your tops on when she freaked out?

    • So out of the 3 of us, the host and I didn’t but the other friend did after waiting like 30 mins after the freak out. We kept eating and hanging out before she put a top on

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  • Yeah freaking out about non-sexual nudity is weird. Some people are more prudish than others though. Theyre taught to think nudity is bad

    • I think it’s weird too. She basically was like “y’all are weird” and I get both sides of it. But what is really wrong about non sexual nudity? Like, we hang out topless quite a bit, i think everyone has mixed feelings on it.

    • Nothings wrong with it at all. I hope one day for a world where it’s not a big deal at all and we don’t have people freaking out about it.

    • Omg! Yes. I so agree. We should be friends. Like I feel like my friends and I are still modest. We still keep a bottom on, but definitely are planning on hanging out topless because we are definitely promoters of equal rights. And it’s more comfortable.

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  • She simply didn't find it appropriate and seems to be more modest than you guys. Nothing wrong with either way of thinking.

    • I agree. It’s a toss up on opinion

  • I'm sure she (the third friend) just didn't expect to see you all topless. I mean who would expect that? right?

    • Yeah. You’re right. There wasn’t a warning. Do you think it’s a wrong choice to be that way?

    • amongst girls, I personally dont think its "wrong" but I wouldn't want to do anything that would make others uncomfortable

    • It wasn’t intended to make her uncomfortable. We had been topless for a few hours and didn’t even cross our minds. Like we knew but it didn’t dawn on us until after. The 2 of my closer friends are topless a lot in the summer, and just kinda hang out. Not weird like.

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  • We could be bestfriends.

    • Yay!

    • :) ..

  • No big deal st all. Very normal with friends here.

  • With closest friends, that's very normal. If we feel normal to change in front of each other hanging for a while topless shouldn't be a big deal.

  • I do this everyday, me and my sisters would go all out.

    My roommates too didn't care, we just wear short and bare chest throughout

    • What do you mean go all out? So you don’t think it’s weird we basically short shorts, bikini bottom or leggings (if it’s colder) with a bare chest?

    • I'm talking about me, sometimes we go with just panties

    • Ah! I get it! I’m naked a lot at home, but still somewhat modest with friends.

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  • Totally cool

    • You wouldn’t judge?

    • Absolutely not

  • I hang out with my wang out. I'm like "Mom, pass me a coke please?" as I flop my doodle to the side 🤷‍♂️

  • She is weird!! We have a pool at my house and 99% of the time I am topless or totally nude and it is totally non-sexual. When I have friends over they are welcome to do the same or leave their bathing suits on. It really isn't a big deal!

  • Well I mean, it's not like you don't see other topless women in the female change room at a gym for example. It's just a human body...

  • It shouldn't be a big deal.

  • Here where I live in Canada it's 100% legal for you to go topless even in public, but be careful when grilling that you don't burn those awesome nipples... lol

  • I don't know. I guess I'm just a repressive guy apparently because i think that's weird.

  • It's not weird at all... I hang out topless with my girlfriends quite regularly to be honest.

  • I won't go topless, I would go topless for my boyfriend 😍

  • I agree with a lot people on here there been a big deal of y'all being topless. I think the next time y'all be topless just don't invite the friend that had issue with it.

    • It wasn’t even a thought. Like. We had been topless for about 3 hours at that point so it wasn’t even a thought

    • Yea just don't that friend over anymore when y'all want to be topless.

    • I don’t think she will be part of the group anymore honestly

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  • It is not a big deal. Every summer me, my girlfriend and her friends go skinny-dipping. It was awkward at first but now I take little notice of them.

  • Cuz tits are sexualized

  • Absolutely fine.

  • It shouldn't be a big deal.

  • as long as yer all chicks its totally normal. I'm comfortable chilling with topless chicks anyway, but it is distracting and i may get a boner, deal with it

  • I do it all the time

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