I don't like lying to her but sometimes I do it because I think she'd rather not know the truth or down play things so she doesn't get upset with me, for example I used to find her really high maintenance and bossy before I found out she had mental health issues and was being abused at home so like most pre teen bitchy girls I'd make fun of her behind her back and one of my friends even filmed me once slagging her off. It's something I really not proud of and now I'm older I realise how much of a horrible thing that was for me to do. I did confess to her but i used to talk about her behind her back when we were younger but down played it and she was very forgiving. It still guilts me today but at least now we're best of friends and I love her to pieces I don't know what I'd do if something was to ever bad happen to her and I never want to see her hurt again.I also lie to her about how I'm doing a lot of the time, I'll make out I'm really happy even though we rarely see each other anymore but deep down I'm really lonely and depressed without her sometimes because I don't want her to worry or feelings bad for leaving me behind because I know her new life with her boyfriend is what's best for her.
The only time you should lie to a friend is if you have no choice but to lie. When I was in high school the three most popular guys in the school liked me and two of them were obsessed with me so I asked my friend who I've known since elementary school and also knew in high school if she thought i was pretty in high school. She didn't want to say I was ugly so she said "I can't answer that because I don't remember what you looked like in high school." I did not like her weak response but I know if she thought I was ugly or plain looking - she wouldn't be right in telling me so. Friends don't always do or say what we want them to - but we accept them anyway.
On the one hand yes, on the other hand no. I can see why people would want to protect the feelings of those they care about but then I've also felt for a long time that your friend finding pu the truth from someone else would be even more devastating. Sometimes it's the lesser of two evils and I'd rather they hear the truth from me rather than an external source.
The only times i feel lying is justified:1.) to protect an innocent person from harm.2.) someone asked you a personal question they have zero right to ask.3.) like #2.. for selfless reasons that don’t benefit yourself. Lying to a fried can benefit you
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100% of anything is always harmful. To be too much truthful to make someone all teary eyed and broken heart is worse than telling a little lie to keep the person happy. I believe to be happy and keep other's happy (to the extent which is possible for me), and as I hate telling unnecessary lies, I hate telling unwanted truth to hurt someone.
I am always 100. Sometimes it is not what you say, but the way you say it that makes the difference. And if you are in a compromising position then it's better not to say anything at all, rather than lie. The only exception I can think of is when it has a solely beneficial effect for the other person. Like a surprise birthday party, or if her boyfriend asks me what ring size she wears and wants to propose and she asks about it, then I won't ruin the moment for her.
Most people don't like being lied to but often do it in many occasions depending on the situation. I would say no, there's no point in lying to a best friend and a lot of times a lie can get so big that it comes back to bite you in the ass. If they ask you a question, tell them do they really want your honest opinion, if they say yes then they have no reason to be upset or get offended by the truth-unless you tell it in a rude way.
It depends. If your friend asks something like “how does this shirt look on me”, I would say “it looks great”. Saying I don’t like it doesn’t help anyone and would just make my friend feel awful. Plus, my opinion wouldn’t necessarily be the truth. It’s okay to tell a little white lie if it won’t have major future consequences and you have good intentions. In my opinion, telling the truth, but with bad or selfish intentions, is no better than telling a lie.
I don’t think so! It’s best to be honest even if it hurts, is best to say things as you feel them and see them especially to a friend. That’s how trust and reliability is built.
The fact that you have to even ask this is pretty telling about your priorities and your moral code. It's funny how it's a lot of girls saying it's ok to tell lies to friends. I've seen girls tell lies to their friends straight to their faces and then mock them behind their backs. Women play dirty with their friends...
Put it like this. If you can't trust a friend, WHY ARE THEY YOUR FRIEND? Anybody who behaves like that to me and never gave me a personal reason is cut off from my life. Period.
Sometimes lying can be a good idea. If a 6yo asks about santa, are you going to be honest? Look at the value of the lie and the impact it could have then decide whether or not honesty is the right path in that situation.
Some people are fucked up in the head because their parents told them there was a Santa Claus and then they found out it wasn't true.
Also, the whole concept makes rich kids entitled and it makes poor kids bitter.
I usually think there's a tactful option that doesn't require lying. It doesn't have to be a simple dichotomy between the bluntest truth and white lie.
I went with "keep it 100" but that doesn't mean being insensitive.
For example, my father is very honest but completely lacks tact. He'll meet someone overweight and say like, "Nice to meet you. You're very fat!!!" He used to irritate me that way a lot when I was younger. His defense was always like, "I was just expressing my honest feelings. Do you want me to lie?" Ugh. There are ways to stick to truthful statements that we actually believe without being the most insensitive jerk. :-D
Trying to protect feelings will just fuck up them up later on in life. Keep it 100 in a respectable way. Unless you know they fasho crazy. Then don't bother even getting involved in a situation where it could potentially be your fault.
never ok, if they find out you lied, which they will... they will always question your integrity and honesty and whether you are genuinely telling them the truth
Everyone lies... in when telling what you think is the truth will be said in a way you want to tell it... the facts may be there but the way you tell it is a lie!
Exceptionally yes it is fine and yes provided it is a white lie only. However exception should be an exception only.
I think it can be, depending on the specific lie and context.
if it a temporary hair color and they feeling themselves I just go hey do you!If it shit they need to hear. Truth 100.
It's probably fine as long as the lie doesn't have a negative effect in the long run. Like if you tell someone they can sing and they just can't. That's probably gonna lead to some embarrassment down the line
Is it ever? Yes, in some cases, it is ok... it's still not optimal though. Never lie to a friend about the other gender though. Don't fk with that bag o bombs
Life isn't a walk on cotton.It's better to not say a thing than lying.
Yes.If it's beneficial for us both, is a lie an option.
Circumstantial. As in, it's OK if it's something like when they ask "am I the ugliest girl in school?". Even if they are.
No I keep it 💯 with my bff were practically sisters we tell each other everything.
If it is a serious matter that could ruin lives, it makes sense to lie. Otherwise you should be brutally honest
if you wanna give them a surprise or something then yes it is appropriate. never anything else though
Yes, if it's a good surprise or something of the sort. Otherwise no, be honest with him/her.
A little white lie won't hurt. But im straight up with my friends
I certainly don't want to be lied to by my friends, I'd like to know the truth, especially if it's not about them but about me. If my hair looks like shit tell me, if my outfit looks like shit tell me if you think I'm ugly tell me. Only that way I can try to improve myself. Knowing the truth may be hard but it's better than to keep wondering forever. Some people may be different, so if people get pissed off and start a fight when you hurt their feelings they apparently only want to hear what they want to hear.And another problem with you lying to protect his or her feelings is that if too many people lie he or she can't even trust those who tell the truth. I think people are entitled to the truth as long as the subject isn't none of their business overall or if they criticise you for being honest. Please don't tell lies to protect feelings.
Lying is just not a good policy, period. It always has consequences.
Lies are NEVER a good idea!
100% honesty. Why lie?
EVERYBODY tells little white lies.
It's not good, but it can be morally forgivable.
It's always better to just tell the truth
Sometimes all depends
Yep me and my friends do all the time lol
Yes It’s Ok For Once
I mean is it for the person's own good? then yes
Thanos taught me never to lie.
Well, girls are sensitive about their looks...
If they're too nosey and don't know their limits
No its not
If you think it is for there own good yes
If it is for good sake not a problem
I voted A.
No. It's much easier to lie to yourself about having friends that way they'll never care about you lying because they're only in you head.
It is always ok to lie to a friend.
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