My father was very abusive all throughout my life so I decided about a year ago to stop having contact with him. Another family member though keeps saying that I should try to have sympathy for the fact that he has a mental illness (narcissistic personality disorder). She keeps saying that he does love me but just doesn’t know how to show it and that I should have empathy for him and give him another chance. I just feel so scared around him though and being around him makes me get suicidal. I just don’t think I can cope with it. Am I doing the right thing? Or am I being selfish or something?