I agree 100%
I am having doubt about motherhood and it is nice to get some positive feedback. I just do not enjoy being a mother but how the system is set up mothers do not have a choice after giving birth and the men can leave when he wants at anytime.
I just never enjoyed motherhood but I can not give my child up for adoption because her dad refuses to consent even though her hasn't seen his child since last year.
Don't give up your child please. It won't solve anything. I had a half-brother at a young age and didn't like him at first. Worst, his father left my mom and I had to help her. It was no easy task raising him. But I ended up caring for that boy. The idea of adoption crossed my mom's mind, but in the end she decided not to. Was the best for us. Concluding with this, the child has no shame for coming to this world. Don't give up. You can do this.
People know what they want to do and what they do not want to do. I never wanted to be a mother even as a kid I despised children. I never wanted to be around children or help my family members baby sit. Every time they would ask I would tell them no. I just feel like it would be better for my child to be adopted into a family that truly wants kids. Then grow up learning that both of her parent do not truly want her. I think that would be more damaging for a child. I plan to get my tubes tided after the pandemic is over.
When people are forced to do thing that they don't want to do they did it half assed and I believe that my child deserved more than that.
Things don't always go the way you planned. Think it thoroughly, and ask for advice from people you trust. I know it's not easy to take care of someone. But don't rush things. Anyway it's up to you, just think about it carefully. That's the most I can tell you. Hope you stay calm and safe.
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There are plenty of lesbian mom's out there. JS. Gayness has nothing to do with my question.