Should I move in with my boyfriend and not have much to do with my family anymore?

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Don't get me wrong i love my family so much but its difficult and complicated. None of them understand me. I have dyslexia and my dad and middle sister are always telling me in stupid and assume i can't read or write but have never actually bothered to see me writing or reading nore asked me if can, they just made the assumption im stupid because im dyslexic.

My middle sister is the biggest problem i have with the family. Ever since we've been kids she's been horrible to me pretty most days, she's whispering behind my back saying im ugly or stupid and laughing at me. She is just so cruel to me and my other sister but no one but me does anything about it and when i speak up my mum screams over the top of me and im the bad guy.

She used to skip school and be aggressive. She's caused my mum and dad so much trouble throughout the years, yet she's just that way because she sensitive according to them. They've never really ever told her off and when my dad would try to talk to her about her behaviour, he was also the bad guy.

She never cleans up after herself and is extremely lazy, Intitled and spoilt and we all have to step on egg shells for her. If anyone gives her the slightest criticism or tells her to do something, your bullying her and being mean. She can never just say "sorry i won't do that again".

Im always trying to be nice to her, letting her borrow my clothes, telling her she's pretty and asking her how are day is and in return she talks to me like shit and my mum just lets her.

My mum i love her very much, but she's a lot tougher on me then either of my sisters and I've always been the least trouble. If i did half the stuff my middle sister did she'd easy find away to punish me yet when it's my middle sister there's nothing she can do. This is the reason why my middle sister is the way she is because my mum has always been soft on her and gave her special treatment instead of actually ever taking action.

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I even refuse to go on holiday with her ever again as she's always throwing tantrums and criticising me and my sisters after doing something she was to scared to do, like ask for something im a restaurant for her because she doesn't want to do it but then afterwards she will make us feel bad about how we said or did something and tell us we're a embarrassment.

My boyfriend is thinking of buying a house next year as his business is really taking off and i love his home town.

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I don't think my boyfriend likes my sister either after everything I've told him about her not but i want him to dislike her but how can you like someone who treats your girlfriend like shit. He trys really hard to make a effort with her and she doesn't either bother saying hello to him.

Whenever i come back from his and talk about how much fun I've had all she can do is slut shame me and tell me to move in with him if i like it so much so she doesn't have to see me and says no one would miss

Answer 1

hellish-kitty

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If that's what would make you feel comfortable, then sure.

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Thanks, AI bot!

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hellish-kitty

Thanks, AI bot!

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Iron_Man | 3.6K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

No boyfriends come and go in the drop of a hat stand by your family

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he's done a lot more for me than they have in the past 22 years if im totally honest. He helped me with all my banking because my family only bothered with my two oldest sisters when it came to setting up saving and isa accounts and expected me to do ot all by myself.

he's actually took time to teach me stuff without calling me stupid and useless and pushed me do things i want to do.
He actually listens to me and holds me when i cry instead of shouting at me "ill give you a reason to cry if you don't keep it down". When we have a fight he actually wants to talk about it and listen to my side of things instead of screaming over the top of me and hitting me.

He makes me feel good about myself instead of telling me i can't do stuff because im stupid. He doesn't tell me im a bad person or that i look horrible or i smell or try to embarrass me and put me down at any chance he gets.
Iron_Man

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Why don’t you to get married First instead of moving in with each other
Asker

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Not everyone is a American uber conservative Christian... Id rather be settled with my boyfriend and know what it's like to live with him before marriage.
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Iron_Man

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Being a Christian is the only way of life if not you’re a lost soul that will perish at the end of death
Asker

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Okay
Asker

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Your brainwashed
Iron_Man

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I’m not brainwashed it’s the only way of life if not you’re just a lost soul
Asker

1 y
How do you know that? Just because people at your church say that doesn't mean it's ture. What's your proof?
Iron_Man

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If you’re gonna talk to me about this take it private message this is quite a long story to get into
Asker

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No thanks, i used to be Christian myself, so your not converting me, im simply letting you know there's still time to leave the clut and come back to reality
Iron_Man

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I don’t know who steered you the wrong way but basically you’re a lost soul that will perish after death instead of living forever. I would recommend that you get back with the Lord Jesus Christ and do the right thing And this time be a serious Christian
Asker

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Id rather burn in hell
Iron_Man

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You can’t be serious come on

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Asker

he's done a lot more for me than they have in the past 22 years if im totally honest. He helped me with all my banking because my family only bothered with my two oldest sisters when it came to setting up saving and isa accounts and expected me to do ot all by myself.

he's actually took time to teach me stuff without calling me stupid and useless and pushed me do things i want to do.
He actually listens to me and holds me when i cry instead of shouting at me "ill give you a reason to cry if you don't keep it down". When we have a fight he actually wants to talk about it and listen to my side of things instead of screaming over the top of me and hitting me.

He makes me feel good about myself instead of telling me i can't do stuff because im stupid. He doesn't tell me im a bad person or that i look horrible or i smell or try to embarrass me and put me down at any chance he gets.

Answer 5

Iron_Man

Why don’t you to get married First instead of moving in with each other

Answer 6

Asker

Not everyone is a American uber conservative Christian... Id rather be settled with my boyfriend and know what it's like to live with him before marriage.

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Iron_Man

Being a Christian is the only way of life if not you’re a lost soul that will perish at the end of death

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Asker

Your brainwashed

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Iron_Man

I’m not brainwashed it’s the only way of life if not you’re just a lost soul

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Asker

How do you know that? Just because people at your church say that doesn't mean it's ture. What's your proof?

Answer 11

Iron_Man

If you’re gonna talk to me about this take it private message this is quite a long story to get into

Answer 12

Asker

No thanks, i used to be Christian myself, so your not converting me, im simply letting you know there's still time to leave the clut and come back to reality

Answer 13

Iron_Man

I don’t know who steered you the wrong way but basically you’re a lost soul that will perish after death instead of living forever. I would recommend that you get back with the Lord Jesus Christ and do the right thing And this time be a serious Christian

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Asker

Id rather burn in hell

Answer 15

Iron_Man

You can’t be serious come on

Answer 16

asshole_

Yoda

You are too young to be having a boyfriend

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Im actually 22
asshole_

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Yikes
Asker

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Yeah am my sister im talking about is 24 yet acts like a 13 year old
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asshole_

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I think you're both acting like little children here

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Asker

Im actually 22

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asshole_

Yikes

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Asker

Yeah am my sister im talking about is 24 yet acts like a 13 year old

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asshole_

I think you're both acting like little children here

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