My boyfriend came to hating my mother (for good reasons and it was well deserved) before. She said mean things, meddled too much, bad-mouth him behind his back, issued him a fake apology and was faking a friendship with him for several years. It's only recently that he has forgiven her and everyone else that wronged him for the simple reason that he doesn't want to live with resentment anymore. She made a total mess out of everything and is only recently that she's realizing he's not bad as she previously demonized him to others. She thinks they can one day be friends but at this moment he's still maintaining distance. He forgives but that doesn't mean it's reconciliation time. Not yet. Hopefully things continue to get better between them. I think he's just waiting for her to put effort into this. He's no longer trying to impress her nor others anymore. He already did this part and now it's up to her now. She would like to reconcile and I think a good start would be wishing him a happy b-day next month. He always wishes her happy b-day and she never did before. Now she wants to.
My grandmother (mom's mother) is one of the few people in my family he really likes. She's like a good friend to him and the type of MIL that's suitable for anyone, man or woman. He calls her a beautiful, sweet woman. Anyways she thinks that they were made up and I'll have my wish of one big happy family. My grandmother has optimism and she thinks God does miracles. I hope she's right. True peace between them (not the fake apology/friendship she did before), harmony and a happy family is all I ever wanted. I want no material gifts. Just that.
@Vesuvius87 I'm sorry to hear about that. It's awful when family gets in the way of love. I wish you the best
yeah I hate that too. Ironically he never came to hating my father. He actually told me once ''I like your father a bit, at least he didn't do the things your mom did''. Like he said it, at least my father never elaborated those plots like my mother did, nor directly insulted him or fake an apology nor friendship. My father is just straight to the point and only apologizes if he makes a mistake, not for the sake of saying it.Yet, my father was no saint either. They never met in person yet. My father didn't want to meet him before because he wasn't interest in meeting any guy but now he would like to. Hopefully they will soon when my boyfriend visits me. We're in a long distance relationship.Hopefully the next year brings me more good stuff. Things are starting to get better. Hope it continues improving like grandma told me.
@Vesuvius87 Long distance relationships are difficult, no need to add extra drama with the family. I wish the situation gets better. Your grandma is great
That's good that your mother was supportive of your relationships. :)
@Flower7 Yeah she was cool
Thanks For Most Helpful Guy :)
That's definitely a possiblity!
For the jealousy reason, who do you think would be jealous of who?
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You're right that in-law problems end quite a few marriages and relationships.