I’ve given it 3/4 months.
Hmm... maybe something could be off? Try asking her about her nerves. Sometimes it’s not even you. She could just be dealing with anxiety like being in large crowds or other triggers
No it’s me. It’s when she’s alone with me especially. She’s fine when with mutual friends too although even then she’s sometimes nervous around me but less so. I clearly make her uncomfortable in some way and I want to stop Doug whatever it is that makes her feel uncomfortable.
But I can’t figure out what it is.
Well you’re just gonna have to ask her.
Do you get nervous with all your friends regardless of how long you’ve known them?
Most of them yeah. It's horrible lol 😂 always makes the atmosphere so stiff and uncomfortable
Even your oldest close friends?
I don't have oldest close guys friends. I don't have guy friends actually, because of that reason. Friends are supposed to be people you're comfy around and that's just almost never the case for me.
Oh. So you’re just awkward around guys?
What if you like him? Then what happens?
I'm not sure... Hasn't happened so far
You’ve never dated a guy?
I have, I've just never dated someone I've been friends for a long time.
So do you think being friends is a massive blocker to a girl dating a guy? Even if she likes him?
Not at all, it's great to date your friend, just gotta make sure you guys are comfortable around each other. I'm not uncomfortable around all like allllll of them, but I find it hard opening up to a guy, doesn't mean I absolutely can't. And yes, I'd love to end up datng a friend
I’ll be honest - I really like my female friend. But I don’t know what to do.
I think you should tell her. That way you'll know if she feels the same, and if not, well, at least you won't be wasting your time.
All my guy friends are discouraging it. They all say I’ll ruin the friendship.
Well that might be true, but at least you'll let it out
It would be particularly hard for me to lose the friendship because I’ve never had the sort of friendship I have with her with any other girls before.
Then I don't know what to tell you.. you just gotta decide because apparently it's eating you out but it's also kinda tricky, telling her. But if she's a good friend, I don't imagine her leaving you if you just tell her you hope things won't be any different between you (in case she rejects you) and who knows, she might actually like you. If your friend also knows her, it's good to listen to their advice too, sometimes they see what you don't see. Good luck man
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