Help: Caught in the Middle of My Friends?

Question

So we were a group of 3 best friends, and friend x didn’t like friend y too much. She felt left out etc. So friend x and I had an argument with friend y and stopped talking to her for a year.

Throughout that year I felt very bad about the way I had treated friend y. So I recently hit her up, apologised and rekindled our friendship. Now I’m afraid that friend x will find out and in someway be mad at me/feel betrayed.

What shall I do?

Updates:

1 mo

Guys this is the second time I mention friend X on this site and people tell me she's not a true friend! lol.

Actually we are close on a very superficial level and I've known her since I was a kid... I am her only real "friend" so letting go of that friendship won't be easy (as a lot of you suggest).

Good to know though! :)

Answer 1

ItsTheNephilim | 354 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

You can have both of these friendships separately (with X and Y) while both of them can choose to not be friends with each other. As long as you're not doing anything wrong with one of them due to the other, it's all good. Y doesn't have a say in your friendship with X.

Asker

1 mo
Friend Y has absolutely no issue with me still being friends with X, even though X started the whole drama. She's lovely. It's friend X who might have a problem when she finds out. But you're right, separately they should work.
ItsTheNephilim

1 mo
If X has a problem then she can keep it to herself or part ways from you; shouldn't make too much hassle for you. I think you can prioritize the best for yourself.
Asker

1 mo
Thank you :)

Answer 2

Asker

Friend Y has absolutely no issue with me still being friends with X, even though X started the whole drama. She's lovely. It's friend X who might have a problem when she finds out. But you're right, separately they should work.

Answer 3

ItsTheNephilim

If X has a problem then she can keep it to herself or part ways from you; shouldn't make too much hassle for you. I think you can prioritize the best for yourself.

Answer 4

Asker

Thank you :)

Answer 5

chriscdi | 746 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

chose one friend, considering that friend y actually forgave you shows enough meanwhile friend x might still be holding a grudge which is a sign of toxic traits, for me at least

Asker

1 mo
The issue is I can’t choose between them. Friend y forgave me and I trust her a lot. But I’ve known friend x since I was a kid, we’ve always been very close.
chriscdi

1 mo
well i can't give a proper solution cause I don't know the details but if you can find a way to make everyone forgive each other than thats GGs
Asker

1 mo
True, thank you! :)

Answer 6

Asker

The issue is I can’t choose between them. Friend y forgave me and I trust her a lot. But I’ve known friend x since I was a kid, we’ve always been very close.

Answer 7

chriscdi

well i can't give a proper solution cause I don't know the details but if you can find a way to make everyone forgive each other than thats GGs

Answer 8

Asker

True, thank you! :)

Answer 9

Lov2PlezUgurl

Xper 6

It seems to me that if these two friends x and y are truly your friends but don't like each other that doesn't matter one person can't tell another person not to have this other person as a friend just because they don't like that person you can have all the friends that you want whether they like each other or not is redundant I would just tell friend x that this is my friend too if you can't handle it then I guess you're going to have to go someplace else but I would like for you not to because you're my friend also but don't tell me who to have as a friend you have to be open with this if you try to sneak around it's like sneaky around on a boyfriend then they will feel betrayed then so just tell it as it is that's the only way to be you can't have a sneaky friendship and feel good about yourself

Asker

25 d
Guess I'm gonna bite the bullet and tell friend X!!! I am seeing her in a couple of days...

Thanks for sharing :)

Answer 10

Asker

Guess I'm gonna bite the bullet and tell friend X!!! I am seeing her in a couple of days...

Thanks for sharing :)

Answer 11

JKingOff | 89 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Xper 7

Well you've already explained everything to a friend why and friend why seems to have been a true friend and forgiving you. I would recommend coming clean to friend x and see what her reaction is like. if it's anything like you expect then I would simply just drop her right then and there. Good friend stick by your side no matter what. Fairweather friends are dime a dozen.

Answer 12

Hangry22 | 163 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Guru

Wow. I had the exact thing happen when i was in high school and i was the middle one. But that girl we left is still bitchy so..
Just say it to your x friend if you are still friends with her

Answer 13

lordskull69

Xper 4

Tell friend x exactly the truth, be s tr taught up and confident in your decision and let the chips fall where they may. Just make sure x understands you still want to remain friends with her as well

Answer 14

spartan55 | 222 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

Not sure, maybe time travel back to middle school? That's about how mature this sounds.

Asker

1 mo
Lol welcome to the life of a female. The drama never stops.
spartan55

1 mo
I couldn't do it.

Answer 15

Asker

Lol welcome to the life of a female. The drama never stops.

Answer 16

spartan55

I couldn't do it.

Answer 17

locutus9999

Xper 5

be honest, would have being honest from the beginning, in the past I have being many times in the situation, and I always say that I do not take sides, so either they solve the issue, or i will hang on with them in separate ways.

Answer 18

Jamie05rhs | 360 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Guru

It happens. I once had two friends get into a fight, and one of them got mad at me for remaining neutral.

Answer 19

Iron_Man | 2.5K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

Don’t get involved it accomplishes absolutely nothing

Answer 20

bklynbadboy1 | 711 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Guru

No just tell her you thought it over and you think they should work it out so y'all can all be friends again

Answer 21

msc545 | 245 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Yoda

Sounds like friend x is a bitch and not a good friend to you at all.

Answer 22

DennisWatkins91

Xper 4

Need to tell your friend x.

Answer 23

belle_kai

Xper 7

Just be open about it

Answer 24

Dave31989

Yoda

good, im glad you're caught

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