Am I wrong/ selfish for not wanting to live with my sister?

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I’ve never lived on my own. I have a child and enough stuff to have my own home one I leave my parents house. My sister and I have had many arguments, she has tried to fight me, talked about me being pregnant out of wedlock while I was pregnant and I don’t like her very much even though I love her. She says things that make me feel insecure about myself and my relationship. She takes medicine for a mental illness (bipolar). My mom is suggesting buying a home for us to live in. I do not want to live with her honestly. I feel like my mom is trying to throw her off on me. I already have a child. I don’t need drama or stress. And I don’t need someone trying to kill my self esteem everyday.

Answer 1

Anonymous

Its not wrong. I am in a similar situation. Living with my brother is a nightmare. My parents just want the fam to stick together. I just want to be alone since I've never been on my own and everyone and everything gets on my nerves now. Living with the fam (especially my dickhead brother) has seriously made me question my will to live.

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Wow I can totally relate. I’ve questioned my will to live as well because of my sister, mom and dad as well. I promise!!! I think the biggest thing that keeps me going is my son and me thinking about how I don’t want him to have to be taken care of by the same people who try to ruin my life... but there have been many times where I was wanting to be dead instead being here.
Opinion Owner

16 d
You have a kid and a reason to live. I don't feel its worth having a kid knowing what kind of people they are and the kind of shitty culture im from. I could have been from anywhere and any culture but not, i got this one :/
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16 d
Well don’t you give up. I love you! More importantly God loves you even more! I’m sure you have a lot to live for. You’re here for a reason. Just tap into the purpose God has for your life. What’s something that people always say you’re good at? Something you truly enjoy! He wants you to walk in it for others and for your own joy. It’s what God wants to do through you. Keep going!
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Opinion Owner

16 d
Thank you for the kind words but i wasn't a planned child. I just wish they had used birth control pills or a condom so that i wouldn't have been brought into this world. Whats the point of being good at things if i can't profit from it? So basically im just a useless soul here.
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You are definitely not a useless soul. Good brought you here for a reason! And when you’re walking in your purpose God will always provide. Pray about everything! That’s what I do. I tell Him about everything! I cry to Him and He changes my mind and my thoughts. Guess what? When I was a baby I was crying. My sister punched the bed to make me stop crying. Ha! She honestly has never liked me but she prayed for a baby sister! I’m meant to be here but I don’t have to be cool with her knowing she doesn’t like me. Guess what else. Me dad left my mom sister and I when I was only two to go be with another woman. It affected me I believe but I think about how God has still kept me safe and let me accomplish many things. And I thank God I’m still here to share my story with people like you. Trust me I could have given up a long time ago. Like while I was pregnant, my sister made me feel like spit when she told me I was pregnant out of wedlock. She ruined my pregnancy and it was supposed to be a beautiful moment for me!! But I’m here! I talk to my pastor dr. Ray. He says to stay away from her as much as possible and just take care of myself. He said I’m a good person and that it’s verbal abuse. And I don’t deserve that. Neither do you!

Answer 2

Asker

Wow I can totally relate. I’ve questioned my will to live as well because of my sister, mom and dad as well. I promise!!! I think the biggest thing that keeps me going is my son and me thinking about how I don’t want him to have to be taken care of by the same people who try to ruin my life... but there have been many times where I was wanting to be dead instead being here.

Answer 3

Opinion Owner

You have a kid and a reason to live. I don't feel its worth having a kid knowing what kind of people they are and the kind of shitty culture im from. I could have been from anywhere and any culture but not, i got this one :/

Answer 4

Asker

Well don’t you give up. I love you! More importantly God loves you even more! I’m sure you have a lot to live for. You’re here for a reason. Just tap into the purpose God has for your life. What’s something that people always say you’re good at? Something you truly enjoy! He wants you to walk in it for others and for your own joy. It’s what God wants to do through you. Keep going!

Answer 5

Opinion Owner

Thank you for the kind words but i wasn't a planned child. I just wish they had used birth control pills or a condom so that i wouldn't have been brought into this world. Whats the point of being good at things if i can't profit from it? So basically im just a useless soul here.

Answer 6

Asker

You are definitely not a useless soul. Good brought you here for a reason! And when you’re walking in your purpose God will always provide. Pray about everything! That’s what I do. I tell Him about everything! I cry to Him and He changes my mind and my thoughts. Guess what? When I was a baby I was crying. My sister punched the bed to make me stop crying. Ha! She honestly has never liked me but she prayed for a baby sister! I’m meant to be here but I don’t have to be cool with her knowing she doesn’t like me. Guess what else. Me dad left my mom sister and I when I was only two to go be with another woman. It affected me I believe but I think about how God has still kept me safe and let me accomplish many things. And I thank God I’m still here to share my story with people like you. Trust me I could have given up a long time ago. Like while I was pregnant, my sister made me feel like spit when she told me I was pregnant out of wedlock. She ruined my pregnancy and it was supposed to be a beautiful moment for me!! But I’m here! I talk to my pastor dr. Ray. He says to stay away from her as much as possible and just take care of myself. He said I’m a good person and that it’s verbal abuse. And I don’t deserve that. Neither do you!

Answer 7

Random_Guy_Online

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If you are able to live by yourself, I'd do that if I were you. You don't have to live with her just because she's your sister.

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Thanks!!!

Answer 8

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Thanks!!!

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