How to get my dad to stop pestering me that he loves me and stop trying to rebuild his relationship with me?

Question

I hate my father.

I hate how he tried to teach me to be a better person with psychological abuse. I hate how he bitches and complains like a six year old that I'm not "kind," that I need to "have some empathy" (newsflash dumbass, the world isn't sunshine and daisies). I hate how he was so insecure about how I affected his image that actual circumstance didn't matter. I hate how he would defend my idiot mother to me when I had to call her stupidity out.

But what I hate more than all of that is how the man refuses to understand that he is completely, 100% dead to me.

I don't give a fuck if he loves me. I don't give a fuck if he "wanted what was best for me." I don't give a fuck that I'm an asshole or a narcissist, or whatever it is you're gonna be a fucking snowflake about.

All that matters is that he needs to understand that there's a price for holding back who I am.. even if who I am made everyone in the family into this

How to get my dad to stop pestering me that he loves me and stop trying to rebuild his relationship with me?

He needs to understand that he has been door-slammed.

Answer 1

Giggletr0nn

Xper 3

Not my problem whether you care about this comment or not, but I love that you are bitching and reeing like a liberal meme and then you link that very same meme unironically.

I've seen you around here before and it's always the same lack of accountability and bitching - just like the same kind of people that will swear up and down that nobody likes them and they don't care but they will still post about it which shows they very obviously do care. If there's missing context then regail us with it; but I imagine you'll just whine about it and refuse to provide context as to why you are so unlikeable because "I don't have to" or whatever.

FýrdracaDócincel

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Look at you, implying through this that you wouldn't be extremely irritated by somebody routinely bitching to you about shit that you don't think matters.

His thoughts about me are irrelevant. The problem is that I'm constantly hearing about them as if they're going to change anything.
Giggletr0nn

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Yeah, like most people do... duh
FýrdracaDócincel

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Like most people what? Be specific.
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Giggletr0nn

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Bitching about that shit that matters, pretty straightforward stuff
FýrdracaDócincel

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It doesn't matter. This was never about how they feel or what they want.
Giggletr0nn

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Whatever gets your rocks off, it's a hallmark trait of a narcissist after all

Answer 2

FýrdracaDócincel

Look at you, implying through this that you wouldn't be extremely irritated by somebody routinely bitching to you about shit that you don't think matters.

His thoughts about me are irrelevant. The problem is that I'm constantly hearing about them as if they're going to change anything.