Boyfriend tells me he misses his son more than me?

Question

Is this normal? Healthy? He literally tells me to my face then says his son will always be first. So, if I have kids with person am I going to be prioritized after all the kids? Wil I be missed less than all the kids?

Answer 1

btbc92 | 1.2K opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.

Master

That's his blood. Of course, it's normal. Your not the wife, so your not a priority. Anybody who put partner over kids for no logical reason is those who don't need kids. Especially when they're good kids. If you feel you have to be the most important, don't date single parents. Or since I assume your straight, don't date single fathers. Period.

Asker

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Ok and when they are both of our kids and I am his wife? Then what? And should he say it out loud to me is more of what I’m asking? Constantly in my face.
btbc92

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The question is again what does this have to do with you? None of what you talk about has anything to do with you and he all ready had this long before you came into the picture. If you can't respect that you need to move on. Because what that sounds like to me that you're extremely needy and you're lacking love. He telling you to respect his boundaries or else you're going to go for Ben make him not want to be with you. When you are his wife then he will prioritize you equally as the children. it should be common sense to you.

Answer 2

Asker

Ok and when they are both of our kids and I am his wife? Then what? And should he say it out loud to me is more of what I’m asking? Constantly in my face.

Answer 3

btbc92

The question is again what does this have to do with you? None of what you talk about has anything to do with you and he all ready had this long before you came into the picture. If you can't respect that you need to move on. Because what that sounds like to me that you're extremely needy and you're lacking love. He telling you to respect his boundaries or else you're going to go for Ben make him not want to be with you. When you are his wife then he will prioritize you equally as the children. it should be common sense to you.

Answer 4

Anonymous

Yes. He'd be a piss-poor dad if he didn't put his kid first. That's what you're supposed to do when you have a child. Kids come before your boyfriend/girlfriend, before your husband/wife, and even before your self. In our worst times, my dad wouldn't eat for a day to make sure I never missed a meal. Not once did I ever go hungry. That's doing it right.

Asker

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I’m not talking about sacrifice. I’m asking should it be verbally shoved in my face constantly? I already had the conversation with him about his child coming first.
Opinion Owner

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If it's coming completely out of nowhere, maybe not. If it's in response to you asking him to do something before his kid, then yes. Or asking him to do something that affects his kid, even if you don't intend it to, then it should be made clear that the kid is factored heavily into the decision.

Answer 5

Asker

I’m not talking about sacrifice. I’m asking should it be verbally shoved in my face constantly? I already had the conversation with him about his child coming first.

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

If it's coming completely out of nowhere, maybe not. If it's in response to you asking him to do something before his kid, then yes. Or asking him to do something that affects his kid, even if you don't intend it to, then it should be made clear that the kid is factored heavily into the decision.

Answer 7

Luckycharms12

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Yes it's normal and healthy not ment to say it tho

Asker

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Thank you. I feel like there is no need to constantly be saying it to me when we already agreed that his son comes first
Luckycharms12

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No need to say it your his girl miss you in different and special way too

Answer 8

Asker

Thank you. I feel like there is no need to constantly be saying it to me when we already agreed that his son comes first

Answer 9

Luckycharms12

No need to say it your his girl miss you in different and special way too

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