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My mom always tells me that my younger brother should protect me, but I disagree. As the oldest, I feel it’s MY job to protect HIM. Not the other way around.
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- I was raised in a traditional home. When I was 5, I was expected to protect my mom & sister. My sister is 5 years older than me. One time we were home alone when I was maybe 6 and some criminals were breaking in to the neighbor's house. She asked me what we should do and because I was raised to take charge and think like a protector I knew what to do and I took charge. If there was ever 'scary" animals/insects, I was expected to deal with it.
You want your brother to group to be that guy who doesn't think it's his job to protect his girlfriend/wife, you go ahead and baby him.1|00|0Is this still revelant?There's a video out of China where a little 2 foot tall kid defended his grandma from an abusive stranger. Kid whips out a knife and was looking like he was going to go special forces ninja on the bad guy. Kid has the heart of a lion.
Ok well not all boys react that way. And we weren’t raised in a traditional home. Telling by your age 47, possibly born 1974. Those times are over, and people have changed their fixed mindsets for the better. Older sisters now protect the younger brothers because they are “younger”. I’m not babying him just because I don’t want him to go off fighting some dude for me, it’s absolutely stupid. He’s smart, but not a fighter. It’s not his job to protect me, nor is it his job to protect his girlfriend. His girlfriend should be able to handle her own problems just like everyone else. Modern times have changed, and men don’t always have to protect the girls. A lot of girls know self defense just as much as men. Some even fight like men instead of the hair pulling technique. My brother would grow up no less a man than you or any other fighter just because he doesn’t protect women.
Then why are you even asking the question if you don't want to hear opinions? Yes, the old days are over. Now you have a lot of guys who will use you as a human shield. I think every woman SHOULD learn self defense. That's a different issue from what's best for a boy.
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I do respect your opinion, I just disagree with it. The whole point of me asking was to get different opinions on the situation. And I’m just saying not every boy is gonna wanna leap in front of a female and risk his safety for someone who wouldn’t do the same. That’s all I’m saying.
You're right, not every male will OR should protect random females. Where I draw the line is, if she starts trouble, whether she's a stranger or my woman, it's not my problem. And I make that clear to anyone who might be under the impression that I will clean up their mess for them. The traditional idea of a lady meant she wasn't going to start trouble or if she did, she knew it was all on her. A lot of modern women think they can start trouble (not being traditional) and demand a guy act traditional to save her. ha ha ha.
- Whoever is larger or stronger usually does the protecting. I'm sure there are ways you protect each other and you will for life.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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- You should of course be looking out and protecting each other, although it is also part of your job to help guide and advice him as best you can.
Purely out of interest, just how old is your brother?1|00|0Is this still revelant?Well I just turned 14, and he’s currently 11 turning 12. My mom said when we get older, like in Highschool or college, he should be protecting me. But I wholeheartedly disagree because he’s not one to fight or really speak up. I’m not either, but I for sure know how to defend myself.
In all honesty your mother is absolutely right, simply because he should grow to be bigger and stronger than you, therefore striking a more imposing figure.
- You should both protect each other but if that's not an option then you should protect him in my opinion1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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410- They can both protect each other. There is not only one way to protect. There are many ways to protect. Most common way to protect in most cultures is keeping them to be at wrong place at wrong time without caring nurturing adult. Adults may keep them for getting experience young one wants. Young one may think this is fun to do. And protector may know the other side cons of doing such thing/s. Protectors age doesn't matter probably in that case. We all learn from our gender specific experiences and surroundings. On the basis what we learn we may try to protect others we love and care about. Age probably doesn't matter then.1|00|0
- I'm still subscribing to the idea that in a crisis situation at least, a man should protect the women and children. If any women want to chip in, that's awesome, and then more people can protect each other. But I'm mostly concerned with men's behavior.1|00|0
Been called simp for my views but to my understanding, a simp is an asskisser. I don't encourage asskissing whatsoever. I do encourage guys to be self-sufficient enough that they can at least protect themselves if not others as well.
A decent man as I see it can protect himself and fend for himself and provide for himself. A great man can extend that to others as well.
- How can he protect you if he is younger and you're just 14?1|00|0
Oh ok. Well, since he is younger, even though he will probably be physically stronger than you because he is a man, I think you will have the edge on him in terms of maturity and in terms of handling situations optimally. I think your wisdom advantage will be more useful than his brawn so I think you will do a better job at protecting him, particularly with advice.
- I think siblings should watch out for eachother no matter age or gender1|00|0
- At your age, your Mom is right, to a certain extent. Parents can't always protect their children from everything, and it's foolish to expect one of their children to have that duty.1|00|0
- the brother should always protect the sister but in general, siblings should always be there for each other1|00|0
- The older sibling should always look after the younger one.1|00|0
- The oldest should protect and guide their younger siblings1|20|0
- At your age it's normal, but later, when he will be bigger and stronger than you, it will be his job.1|00|0
- Yes I agree with you! You should protect him as you are the oldest I mean it only makes sense.1|00|0
- The stronger one should protect the weaker one.2|00|0
- You should protect each other1|00|0
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