One thing though is that I'd probably be more inclined to raise a tomboy of a daughter with whom we can do push-ups together than an effeminate boy. It's just based on what I know which has its shortcomings. My wife can balance things out. If I have a daughter who is bullied in school, I go with what I know which is to teach her to stand up for herself but not confuse with lowering herself to the level of her enemies, and how to throw a mean punch if the worst comes to worst. I'll raise her based on what I know, and rely on my wife to fill in the gaps of what I don't.But once she starts menstruating and finding boys cute, I'm fleeing and running to my wife for help on this. I have no idea what I'm doing at this point.
Well, some people seem to think all a child needs is love to grow up into healthy adults. I don't think that way. I think we need some skills! And we need skills that are tailored to the broad aspects of an individual, like maybe starting with whether they are a boy or a girl. And I can recognize when I'm out of my depth and seek help from those who are more skilled if I find myself in such a situation, and I suspect I'll want to seek more help from other people if I'm raising a daughter than a son.
But beyond differences in sex, I also spent a lot of my life growing up as a jock first and a nerd towards my latter years in high school and uni. So say I raise a child who is neither jock nor nerd. They're neither interested in academic subjects nor sports. Maybe they wanna be a musician. I'm a little bit out of my element here. So I'll seek help here, including professional help, and I won't raise them like a jock or nerd if they're not interested. I want to bring out their true potential, not make them fit my ideas.
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