Hahaha hell no I won’t be taking care of them. They’ve done me so wrong that I can’t stand being around them anymore.
Well, that's sad. Hopefully you work through your issues. I'm just of the opinion that family is family even when you hurt each other. I don't think hurting them back as revenge is a better option. But do you
They’re 56 and 53. Well, what do you suggest is a good idea to help me overcome the resentment I have for them? How can I show them that I don’t deserve them mistreating me?
That's something you'll need to look at. There are plenty of resources on how to deal with resentment, especially with parents. I don't know what kind of mistreatment you mean. But holding on to resentment doesn't help. St the very least it keeps you angry all the time. I know I have similar issues with my father and I continually have to get over my resentment. It doesn't help the issue at hand, in the moment. It takes time and repetition and trial and error and establishing boundaries. there's a lot but you can always start with writing down what you think and feel, but also challenge yourself to come up with solutions. What you could do, what they could do, etc. That process helps me sometimes.
I’ll have you know that I was their only child that ever helped them even when they didn’t deserve it. They’ve done absolutely nothing for me, helped the others, but not me. They came to me when they wanted money but when I would express any of my concerns they didn’t care less and continued to do what would only hurt me. What I have is thanks to my own effort not because of them, they know this and I know this. They’ve only managed to play with my mind and jaded my way of seeing others. Sad thing is, I never expected anything from them aside for them because what I did for them was just that for them in an attempt to give them something nobody else would. Unlike my other siblings I never mooched off of them.
Whose responsibility is to fix their financial problems?
Not mine. They’re grown adults. I used to feel the obligation to look after them but that feeling faded away with their horrible behavior.
Whatever solution there is, it should involve them fixing it.
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Seen as an atm but couldn’t care less about my wellbeing. In fact, all my pain that I’ve ever felt was their fault because they forcefully drag me into scenarios that are bad for me. I’m tired so I’ve chosen to pull away in peace.