Would you ever sleep with your friend?

Would you ever sleep with you friend if both of you were single? Even if you were friends for a long time?
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  • I have done recently. I've known this person for a really long time like say 2014.

    We were always just friends never had any romantic Incling.

    He's older and always been supportive of me. And I've been the same for him.

    I won't go into details, but I guess life, covid and a mutual interest sparked something between us.

    It's been a one off for now.

    We're still the best of friends.

    Will it happen again?

    I'm sure he probably wouldn't mind but for now I'm kind of OK with how things are.

    My itch was scratched. And very well!

    • Was alcohol involved at all, and was being physical discussed ahead of time or did someone simply make a move and the other went along with it?

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  • I did once, it was a very playful experience.

    We were friends for a couple years in college. Talked about everything under the sun and would have drinks together from time to time. We both had just broke up with our respective boyfriend / GFs. Although my breakup happened that morning (and I had slept with my girlfriend the night before - and my friend knew that). As we drank more and more we both got a little more touchy and we ultimately started playing and then had sex. She laughingly gave me a hard time (as she was riding on top of me) about having sex with two different girls in consecutive nights…. It was a playful / fun experience.

    It never happened again and we remained friends. I ultimately introduced her to her future husband.

    • Does her husband know about you & her having sex?

    • @Gagname I don’t think so., but am not sure if she ever told him or not. It was well before they ever dated, so it wasn’t something that I felt I needed to divulge…but wouldn’t care if she ultimately did.

  • (I'm pretty sure you're referring to those of the opposite gender?)
    I'd say that it's very likely that I'd be ok with that. (maybe even more?)

    The "older" the friendship, the more likely. 'cause of things like, how "dirty" either (or both) of us can be. I mean, the friend would've been aware of it, and thus (either) not offended by it, or are "ok" with it.

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  • Eh? I suppose if he did something so awful that there was just no way possible to salvage the friendship… maybe? I mean, he’s already completely destroyed the friendship, so it’s pretty much the exactly same as if we DID fuck, so I see no reason why we couldn’t have sex?

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  • I do. He is a friends with benefits. A handsome Slavic boy that I have known for a long time.

    Is that bad?

  • I am an alcoholic. Alcohol presents opportunities. You conflate the warmth of your best friend to love. And you like the way she touches you and kisses you, and you are too drunk to think twice about it. You conflate the warmth of what she represents to you as a friend and forget everything else. Regret the next day.

    • But not that much regret. I don't know how to say it for people who haven't been there, done that. You saw everything there was about her. All your curiosities are now satisfied. It is not a hard regret like the things you did wrong in life that I sometimes dwell on now. It is maybe not even regret. You know, I saw her boobs, butt, even her genital parts. And I loved her very much as a best friend. I liked what I saw and even more so because she was my friend. I liked it a lot. Good stuff! But maybe we fucked something up getting so close. Maybe that's why I can't talk to her so much now that she is married, and only shake her husband's hand and give him the best of wishes. Maybe I fucked something up.

  • Totally I would, I have never been friends with a women I did not find sexually attractive and as a man I would totally risk the relationship for sex, if I thought we had a chance at a future together.

  • Have sex with them? No, I wouldn't.

  • Yes I will, and I did. As long as we are in an agreement. Nothing wrong about it.

  • I already have - it was stupid - We're not friends anymore - well we haven't been friends for 5 years but still I'm never pulling off any friends with benefits thing because I really cared for her as a friend

  • For me, it has always been friends first, lovers second, so every guy I've ever slept with was a friend !!!

    • Best way to be!

  • If I find her attractive, yes.

  • do you mean same sex friend or opposite sex friend

    • Either or whichever you would be interested in

    • then its a yes, I can keep sex and friendship separate, I can and I have had sex with a guy, and sometime later just sat down and had coffee with him as if nothing has happened, don't know whether they can, but that isn't my problem,

  • Nope. First, I don’t sleep with anyone unless I am in a relationship with them.

    Plus, If I was single, I already made a mistake of friend zoning some people I didn’t really want to put into friend zone. But I was scared of rejection and heart break. So I wouldn’t do it anymore. No mind games. I would tell then straightforward that I liked them and then we can decide from there on.

  • Yeah I have. It didn’t go anywhere though, we just remained friends

  • The pros and cons:
    PRO: Two lonely people bonding for intimacy and warmth (especially wintertime) and affection.
    CON: Sex DOES change things between people. It might your former friendship better, or it might make it worse, but it WILL make it *different* going forwards.

    • Addendum: This especially goes with adding a third party. A good metaphor for "Friends with benefits" is, I think, playing with dynamite. Dynamite can be used constructively in a great landscaping infrastructure project , but it can also blow up in your face. See also the metaphor of Nitroglycerine, which is small doses helps people with heart problems (literally, although in the friends with benefits situation the heart problem is figuratively), but in larger doses can again blow up with catastrophic results.

  • No. I only share my body with the one I love and eventually marry. friends… because I don’t want to share my body with them.

  • Only if I seen her as a potential long-term partner/relationship. I wouldn't do it just for sex, not to risk losing a good friend later.

  • Yeah but probably only once anymore and it could compromise the friendship unless that's all you're getting from it. Hell even once could be too much it'd have to be like a mutual one off or something you couldn't have either side left in the grey to what's going on between you two.

  • Yes. Probably enough times that her nickname would be cowgirl. :)

  • I’m not sexually attracted to my friends which is why they are friends.

  • This is how the best "relationship" (kinda friends with benefits, kinda open relationship thing I don't know) I've ever had began so if there's a genuine attraction between you why not try as long as you both agree that if it doesn't work Oh well at least you tried

    • This only works if the two people are on the same page and both their mentalities will not cause issues. I’ve had sex with a friend and she quickly caught feelings. Wanted a relationship but we weren’t on the same page. Or when I once rejected a girl and said your like my sister she also cut me out, could not handle rejection. It’s not advisable unless in very specific conditions…

  • Yes if we would keep it between Just us.

  • Yeah I would.

    If we didn't have sex at least do mutual masturbation.

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