Polls: Family & Friends

Background:🎀

More specifically, If you discovered that your great grandmother left you an inheritance BUT your parents (the ones meant to protect you from harm) spent it and then tried to cover it up, what would you do?💭

He (43 M) doesn't want to admit that he really messed up greatly so I'm writing on his behalf. He had an affair lasting for nearly a year, his wife found out about it. That's not all though.

He had an affair with the wife's best friend from her college years and the woman still got pregnant at the age of 41. They only have a son that's already in his first year of college, not a minor anymore. His wife (my soon to be ex SIL) has started the divorce process. She has all the evidence of both the affair and the product of it.

He really wishes to work it out but my SIL refuses to. She wants him out. In this case, he deserves what's coming for him right?

Background: My life has done a complete 360° since God put me in time out to heal for the last three years. I have ignited new passions and rekindled old passions during my journey.

I now have the privilege of pursuing higher education or taking time off to start a family. I am undecided. I feel like the only thing I TRULY want for my life is to be a mommy but the world has sooooo much more to offer through education.

There are many opportunities that have been presented to me that makes the idea of holding off on children more appealing even if I'd prefer to have a baby now. There is also fear in becoming a first-time new mommy. It's a lot of work and I would most likely be doing all the domestic labor by myself or with a nanny.

*Sighs*

There's a lot to consider. If you are currently a parent, I really want to hear from you. All opinions are welcome of course. So should I take a break from schooling and focus on becoming a mommy or finish my Master's and Ph. D program then settle down with baby?

I've included a poll to make things easier if you don't feel like writing. I enjoy reading what you all have to say though.

If friend A told you months in advance about a special event they want you to attend (without a specified date yet) and you told them you will attend when you receive the date; for friend B to ask you recently if you’re free next weekend for dinner and you are technically free for now so you say yes… for friend A to say the event is now next weekend (the same day as the dinner with friend B), would you go with friend A or friend B? I feel like I have to be with friend A since I promised months prior I will be there but I feel bad for flaking on friend B… what would you choose?

Let's say that someone asks you to join them to run their errands and you say yes. So you agree to meet at a certain time. It's the appointed time and there is no response from that person. 30, 40 mins—almost an hour—pass until you hear from them. They call/text, telling you that they overslept and now they don't have time to go at that same time (but they do later in the day).

How would you react in this situation?

Let me elaborate a little. Now, I know of course you want your SO and your friends to get along, and hanging out altogether shouldn't be an issue. But I've PERSONALLY always been of the mind that you just don't hang out with your friends SO's privately or talk to them privately. It feels like a line that shouldn't be crossed to me.
Well I have a close friend who views this a little differentially. She sees no issue with it if we all trust one another. We both recently met guys and have started seeing them, however both of us were friends with each guy before we really started "seeing" them if you will. We met her current SO first, nice guy, and again, we were all friends before they started getting serious. Even before they officially announced anything, I could TELL it seemed to be getting serious so I backed off and do not and have not spoken with him privately outside of what's said in front of said friend or in a group chat that she is in.

Now fast forward to meeting my SO. Again, we met mine at the same time and were friends with him before anything started. From the start he was definitely kinda seeking me out, talking to me more than her and what not so it wasn't really a surprise when we started seeing one another however, unlike the boundary I have myself not to cross... she doesn't really seem to have issue with trying to seek him out alone to hang out with or talk to privately. To my understanding my SO is not really receptive to it. Doesn't hang out with her when she offers, and it's hit or miss if he even responds to her when she tries to message him. Not that I've pressed for details, but they've both vaguely mentioned it here or there.

I don't want to be "controlling" or "toxic" or seem like I'm trying to commander their friendships, but I just am unsure if I'm the one with the issue or if there really is something weird about this.

In your opinion, do you believe women and men can be strictly platonic friends? Why/why not?

Would you let a sasquatch babysit your current or future children to save money?

Personally I find it easier to relate to girls. However, I do get along fairly well with guys too.

So my boyfriend and I have been together long enough to be apart of family functions, I have met his family, extended family and I seem to be invited to most family functions but not birthday dinners when its just the intermediate family. I sometimes get a little annoyed with it but I try to look at the positives of it for me of not being invited and having a bit more time to myself. I am not sure if my boyfriend has even questioned why i'm not invited to birthday dinners to his family. Am I overreacting or would you be annoyed as well?

by the way, he is always welcome to family birthday dinners and functions in my family, there is no doubt about it. He says i'm part of his family but it only seems like it on certain days when it comes to birthday dinners

Respectfully

Some say being a parent is a forever thing, what do you say? Would you kick your child out once they reach a certain age?

My friend says she has a violent dog who tried to eat their cat and will attack or bite literally everyone except for the dad (it's a dad and his two young adults children). They tried to get professional intervention but it didn't work. They can't re-home the dog because it has a bite record. They don't want to euthanize him.

Since nobody else can safely interact with the dog, the dog is kept in a crate whenever the dad is at work and also when dinner is prepared and eaten. Which is like 630am-5pm and 630-9pm. I can empathize with the situation of keeping the family safe but it does seem like a little much even though the crate is comfortable with food, water, and toys. Does anyone have any advice I can send over to my friend?

Or are you fine with just having superficial connections with people? What are some of the shared deep understandings that you want to have with close friends?

A shopping centre in England has been criticised for installing rainbow buddy benches. The idea is by sitting on one, you're inviting people to sit next to you for a chat.

Apparently not many people are using them, so would you?

Should I stay in my expensive condo or move to a cheaper hotel, considering my uncertain future with my boyfriend and my desire to move Canada next year? “Please vote and leave comments below.”

More details:

Before, I was homeless, unable to afford a place. Now, with a better income, I live in a condo. Despite the expense of 1500 rent. I'm content because it's close to work. However, my job is affecting my mental health, and the country's racism makes it hard to belong. My brain and body is already asking me to find a new job. In Malaysia I work, I felt lonely really lonely until I met Hamzah, with whom he become my boyfriend for over a year. But, he is returning to Iraq after his PhD on August this year. I felt afraid if ever he will come back as he is also clueless of his future.

I'm torn between staying in my current condo or moving to a cheaper hotel as my contract ends this May. Should I stay or move considering my uncertain future and desire to move to Canada?

If I stay in condo I can only save 2500 with strict discipline and in hotel I can save 2900. 400 difference per month.

Like what would u want her to do and would u help her raise the baby. Bare in mind she’s gonna cut off her freedom big time