We can't change how others see us. Accept what we have.
I can count so much of the negativiites my mom shared throughput the years. For many, it can affect them. I have talked to women how their mom's views created much insecurity in them and they have to live to change all that.
I learned to changed that and often help bring positive view towards the way my mom sees things. its hard, but worth it when you bring joy to others.
the feelings of negativity is hard, what are somethings you are doing to make those changes? what are some goods you have in your life?
I just learned I have PMDD, a form of mental illness that i am still trying to accept and trying to do something about.
thats all i can do, by trying to find ways to change the way I think. One can only try what they can change and be glad to have what they have.
You don't hate being a woman. You just hate yourself because of your insecurities. You are biologically a girl, you still don't get expected to work as hard as guys and you still have more emotional supports even slightly than guys in general and don't have to face the punishment guys get. Everyone is attractive their own way. You might have a good heart though and personality matters a lot. Just be confident. Confidence actually attracts people but not arrogance. Insecurities are unattractive by the way.
Stop focusing on boys. Everything that you said is about how you won't find a man that loves you. There is more to life then a connection with someone of the opposite sex. I have an idea of what you are going through as I'm 21 and have never even been on a date. Just focus on doing things you enjoy, get some confidence and if you happen to find a man that is great, but if not you can at least say you lived your best life.
since when do you need to be like all other women? its not bad to be a masculine woman.
I used to hate myself too though at one time. cause im tiny (height wise, and im always underweight) and would always be mistaken for being a lesbian just cause im not girly at all.
but being unique is all that matters. being like a bunch of other women means your not being yourself
Just be a diva/goddess on the web. Some gamers want girls so much, no matter anything, just that she has a vag. Use steam as a social website (many people do) and get many friends. Customize your account and make clear you are a girl. You don't need to show your face or parts of your body you don't feel comfortable with, you just need to prove you are a girl and boys will gift you money, games and prizes. They will also treat you with sweetness. They will try reach you and some may even get obsessed (you can block them).
K so I will unfortunately have to take your word on beauty since I can't see you. That states you are 177 CM or for those of us in 'merica' about 5'9'' hardly a giant miss. As for men wanting girly girls, you might have a point. You seem to be in the same situation as a lot of men as you just discribed how men are treated when hurting in number 5. As to 6 why are you listening to others. The only person you have to prove yourself to or live for is yourself. If others don't like it screw them. As to babies and the whatnot think of it like a man would. You get to keep your figure, and your money if you opt out.
You know what this pity party has to stop. Nobody's going to want to be around you or no guys going to want to date you going to keep being so moody like that. Not every person's attractive or can be. Some people are just naturally average and truth be told it's your attitude that's ugly. The roads not always fair to everyone they have to accept them f******. I'm not trying to be blunt or anything but I'm just getting you to see how you're acting. You should learn that beautiful head of yours and stop with the pity party already.
First off, why is intimidating/disgusting/masculine/scary a thing? Being masculine isn't disgusting, intimidating or scary. It's natural. Second, grow up. Men deal with this shit on the daily, plus feminazi bullshit about how our masculinity is toxic and we're all rapists, and you don't see us going aro… Actually, we do kill ourselves a lot (and I mean A LOT!!!)… But we don't whine about it! Being single isn't a big fucking deal. I did it on purpose for seven straight years just to not deal with dating bullshit! Single is awesome! Everything is half-priced, and you only have to answer to you.
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Being tall is not bad at all. All heights are great and there are many men who prefer tall women. And having masculine features doesn't make you ugly at all. You could take hormone test and see if you have too much testerone. If that's the case then you can take estrogen to help but otherwise having masculine features on females are attractive in the modeling world.
I don't Think you are unattractive. And why do you think you have masculine features?
And lastly nobody cares about shoe size many woman have big feet and it's not a dealbreaker or anything important to think about.
My best friend and my daughter both have feet that are size 9-11 U. S. Not small feet at all. The are both gorgeous to most people! I see lots of gorgeous women with terribly unhealthy feet, and men still love them as well.
Some people prefer masculine looking women. I know I have stronger facial features. i don't find them the most attractive, but a ton of people do. That's why masculine looking women are still in the gene pool, right?
You may not agree, but you are not worthless.. When I was 16 i went on a youth group camp out.. we met others from different churches. I met a girl, who I thought was homely.. We got assigned to be "leaders" By the end of the long weekend, I could not remember why I thought she was "ugly" She actually was pretty to me and still to this day, I can't remember why... We exchanged numbers but she lived a couple hours north of me.. so at 16, she might as well lived in Europe..
The moral is, her beauty was truly from within... I know it sounds pie in the sky.. but it changed how I thought of people , I can't be the only one that learned this lesson...
Stop putting yourself down. There is no single way to be beautiful. Ik a lot of guys that ptefer stronger women who can take care of themselves, they prefer taller women etc. Remember to help your confidence boost a bit at least, hit the gym and change your look with a different makeup or hairstyle, things will be better!
I'd like to get to know you better, then I'd care whenever you are sad, and even if not so. And by this masculine things you are attractive again. I am bisexual... so it doesn't actually matter to me. It's more like a bonus. A strong girl? "Hell yeah!"
That's the genetic lottery. Maybe it will help you to know that because of "genetic lottery" everyone is.. equal in a sense that they've all played it and some won some lost. But don't let your self think that because of how you described yourself, you're somehow worthless. You can, and actually probably better than most, find something productive to do, perhaps make buncha money since your time is not as occupied because of lack of dating and relationship. It means you have extra room to advance on whatever aspect of life you want to progress on because you aren't tied down.
So you don't hate being a woman, you just hate being you...
I do hope that you realise that just because the guys you want to date or just get into bed prefer the more petite femine girls doesn't mean that all men prefer them, I personally prefer more masculine women; they tend to have a better sense of humor!
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Not everyone can be Physically (i repeat physically, not mentally) attractive. It's something you can't Naturally change. The thing is, the world isn't fair for everyone. I myself have to deal with this shitty acne, it ruins my mood most the times, makes me feel ugly and sometimes I even lock myself home. I even started eating correct meals and taking care of my hygiene, yet there would be a random homeless with better skin than I do. I just gotta suck it up and live with this but I'll continue trying to get better, that's just human nature. In my opinion. I think you should consider cosmetic surgery if you're really feeling that depressed and suicidal. It's not that simple to 'just love yourself' because if you think it is, than you probably haven't been on a similar spotlight. Sometimes I wish humans were like Cats, everyone would be cute..
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"Because no one sympathise with manly women who look strong enough to take care of themselves."
You need not add the "manly" there. Actually, I suspect it is true for everyone, man or woman. Strong human beings are left to fend for themselves and for others.
As with everything in life, sometimes it's a matter of time, and timing, for you to meet someone that adores you for you. Surely it's genetic and you aren't alone, no? At least, I've met many ladies who were quite tall and big sized - not fat at all, just strongly built like real valkyries.
Sorry, guess I'm not helping. What I'm trying to say is that it's actually the norm in a few European countries. At the end of the day though, sometimes we have to accept that we cannot really become anything we want to be. We can only be yourselves, decent, hardworking and honest human beings.
1) Whatever... 2) Cute girls aren’t powerless and a lot of them are pretty feisty… Tall girls aren’t scary either… 3) Men typically are attracted to femininity. That’s not likely to change. 4) Most people are average to unattractive. Few people are widely attractive. 5) You’re a girl someone always cares about you… Try being a man. 6) How could they expect you to have a boyfriend, get married, have babies if they don’t care about your life… See I told you people care about you...
Real women are not determined by their height or their feeling. Real women are consecrated, remnant and the called according to the precious blood of Jesus and take pleasure in knowing God created them as females with the beauty of motherhood and are not bombarded with the stresses and wicked desires of harlots and loose women.
I say you need to suck it up and embrace being a woman. I once felt like you up until 4 years ago and found out it's always best to accept the truth of your displayed external and internal sexuality. It could be worse. You could be out of your mind so be thankful that you are a cherished and beautiful woman. The only woman who can be you and nobody else can duplicate you.
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All I can say about your height is you are tall enough to be a model in a small city, but not a major one. Seriously, you're too short to be a top model.
So … I don't think height alone is an issue.
Can't really comment on the rest of your claims of unattractiveness.
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We can't change how others see us. Accept what we have.
I can count so much of the negativiites my mom shared throughput the years. For many, it can affect them. I have talked to women how their mom's views created much insecurity in them and they have to live to change all that.
I learned to changed that and often help bring positive view towards the way my mom sees things. its hard, but worth it when you bring joy to others.
the feelings of negativity is hard, what are somethings you are doing to make those changes? what are some goods you have in your life?
I just learned I have PMDD, a form of mental illness that i am still trying to accept and trying to do something about.
thats all i can do, by trying to find ways to change the way I think.
One can only try what they can change and be glad to have what they have.
You don't hate being a woman. You just hate yourself because of your insecurities. You are biologically a girl, you still don't get expected to work as hard as guys and you still have more emotional supports even slightly than guys in general and don't have to face the punishment guys get. Everyone is attractive their own way. You might have a good heart though and personality matters a lot. Just be confident. Confidence actually attracts people but not arrogance. Insecurities are unattractive by the way.
Also just go your role as a women not a victim. Being feminine despite how you think you look is important.
Stop focusing on boys. Everything that you said is about how you won't find a man that loves you. There is more to life then a connection with someone of the opposite sex. I have an idea of what you are going through as I'm 21 and have never even been on a date. Just focus on doing things you enjoy, get some confidence and if you happen to find a man that is great, but if not you can at least say you lived your best life.
since when do you need to be like all other women? its not bad to be a masculine woman.
I used to hate myself too though at one time. cause im tiny (height wise, and im always underweight) and would always be mistaken for being a lesbian just cause im not girly at all.
but being unique is all that matters. being like a bunch of other women means your not being yourself
Just be a diva/goddess on the web. Some gamers want girls so much, no matter anything, just that she has a vag. Use steam as a social website (many people do) and get many friends. Customize your account and make clear you are a girl. You don't need to show your face or parts of your body you don't feel comfortable with, you just need to prove you are a girl and boys will gift you money, games and prizes. They will also treat you with sweetness. They will try reach you and some may even get obsessed (you can block them).
K so I will unfortunately have to take your word on beauty since I can't see you. That states you are 177 CM or for those of us in 'merica' about 5'9'' hardly a giant miss. As for men wanting girly girls, you might have a point. You seem to be in the same situation as a lot of men as you just discribed how men are treated when hurting in number 5. As to 6 why are you listening to others. The only person you have to prove yourself to or live for is yourself. If others don't like it screw them. As to babies and the whatnot think of it like a man would. You get to keep your figure, and your money if you opt out.
You know what this pity party has to stop. Nobody's going to want to be around you or no guys going to want to date you going to keep being so moody like that. Not every person's attractive or can be. Some people are just naturally average and truth be told it's your attitude that's ugly. The roads not always fair to everyone they have to accept them f******. I'm not trying to be blunt or anything but I'm just getting you to see how you're acting. You should learn that beautiful head of yours and stop with the pity party already.
I mean to say life isn't always for everyone.
First off, why is intimidating/disgusting/masculine/scary a thing? Being masculine isn't disgusting, intimidating or scary. It's natural. Second, grow up. Men deal with this shit on the daily, plus feminazi bullshit about how our masculinity is toxic and we're all rapists, and you don't see us going aro… Actually, we do kill ourselves a lot (and I mean A LOT!!!)… But we don't whine about it! Being single isn't a big fucking deal. I did it on purpose for seven straight years just to not deal with dating bullshit! Single is awesome! Everything is half-priced, and you only have to answer to you.
Being tall is not bad at all. All heights are great and there are many men who prefer tall women.
And having masculine features doesn't make you ugly at all. You could take hormone test and see if you have too much testerone. If that's the case then you can take estrogen to help but otherwise having masculine features on females are attractive in the modeling world.
I don't Think you are unattractive. And why do you think you have masculine features?
And lastly nobody cares about shoe size many woman have big feet and it's not a dealbreaker or anything important to think about.
My best friend and my daughter both have feet that are size 9-11 U. S. Not small feet at all. The are both gorgeous to most people! I see lots of gorgeous women with terribly unhealthy feet, and men still love them as well.
Some people prefer masculine looking women. I know I have stronger facial features. i don't find them the most attractive, but a ton of people do. That's why masculine looking women are still in the gene pool, right?
@wolfcat87 Yup👍🏻 There are many different types of bodytypes and shoe sizes and there are guys who prefer bigger ones.
You may not agree, but you are not worthless.. When I was 16 i went on a youth group camp out.. we met others from different churches. I met a girl, who I thought was homely.. We got assigned to be "leaders" By the end of the long weekend, I could not remember why I thought she was "ugly" She actually was pretty to me and still to this day, I can't remember why... We exchanged numbers but she lived a couple hours north of me.. so at 16, she might as well lived in Europe..
The moral is, her beauty was truly from within... I know it sounds pie in the sky.. but it changed how I thought of people , I can't be the only one that learned this lesson...
*hugs*
Stop putting yourself down. There is no single way to be beautiful. Ik a lot of guys that ptefer stronger women who can take care of themselves, they prefer taller women etc.
Remember to help your confidence boost a bit at least, hit the gym and change your look with a different makeup or hairstyle, things will be better!
I'd like to get to know you better, then I'd care whenever you are sad, and even if not so. And by this masculine things you are attractive again. I am bisexual... so it doesn't actually matter to me. It's more like a bonus. A strong girl? "Hell yeah!"
That's the genetic lottery. Maybe it will help you to know that because of "genetic lottery" everyone is.. equal in a sense that they've all played it and some won some lost. But don't let your self think that because of how you described yourself, you're somehow worthless. You can, and actually probably better than most, find something productive to do, perhaps make buncha money since your time is not as occupied because of lack of dating and relationship. It means you have extra room to advance on whatever aspect of life you want to progress on because you aren't tied down.
So you don't hate being a woman, you just hate being you...
I do hope that you realise that just because the guys you want to date or just get into bed prefer the more petite femine girls doesn't mean that all men prefer them, I personally prefer more masculine women; they tend to have a better sense of humor!
Not everyone can be Physically (i repeat physically, not mentally) attractive. It's something you can't Naturally change. The thing is, the world isn't fair for everyone. I myself have to deal with this shitty acne, it ruins my mood most the times, makes me feel ugly and sometimes I even lock myself home. I even started eating correct meals and taking care of my hygiene, yet there would be a random homeless with better skin than I do. I just gotta suck it up and live with this but I'll continue trying to get better, that's just human nature.
In my opinion. I think you should consider cosmetic surgery if you're really feeling that depressed and suicidal. It's not that simple to 'just love yourself' because if you think it is, than you probably haven't been on a similar spotlight.
Sometimes I wish humans were like Cats, everyone would be cute..
"Because no one sympathise with manly women who look strong enough to take care of themselves."
You need not add the "manly" there. Actually, I suspect it is true for everyone, man or woman. Strong human beings are left to fend for themselves and for others.
As with everything in life, sometimes it's a matter of time, and timing, for you to meet someone that adores you for you.
Surely it's genetic and you aren't alone, no? At least, I've met many ladies who were quite tall and big sized - not fat at all, just strongly built like real valkyries.
Sorry, guess I'm not helping. What I'm trying to say is that it's actually the norm in a few European countries.
At the end of the day though, sometimes we have to accept that we cannot really become anything we want to be. We can only be yourselves, decent, hardworking and honest human beings.
That's just shy of my height. I dated a girl taller than me before, you are fine :)
Masculinity is fine honestly. I want someone strong and independent, not a dainty princess.
If you want, you can send me a pm and we can talk? I do not judge and I am happy to help you feel better if I can
1) Whatever...
2) Cute girls aren’t powerless and a lot of them are pretty feisty… Tall girls aren’t scary either…
3) Men typically are attracted to femininity. That’s not likely to change.
4) Most people are average to unattractive. Few people are widely attractive.
5) You’re a girl someone always cares about you… Try being a man.
6) How could they expect you to have a boyfriend, get married, have babies if they don’t care about your life… See I told you people care about you...
Real women are not determined by their height or their feeling. Real women are consecrated, remnant and the called according to the precious blood of Jesus and take pleasure in knowing God created them as females with the beauty of motherhood and are not bombarded with the stresses and wicked desires of harlots and loose women.
I say you need to suck it up and embrace being a woman. I once felt like you up until 4 years ago and found out it's always best to accept the truth of your displayed external and internal sexuality. It could be worse. You could be out of your mind so be thankful that you are a cherished and beautiful woman. The only woman who can be you and nobody else can duplicate you.
All I can say about your height is you are tall enough to be a model in a small city, but not a major one. Seriously, you're too short to be a top model.
So … I don't think height alone is an issue.
Can't really comment on the rest of your claims of unattractiveness.