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Don't go for plugs unless you mean it. I haven them, I love them and I won't regret having them. But they can be permanent if your ears don't go back, having decided that you don't want them in several years time. You need to take months to stretch them properly and it's not painless (it can seriously twinge).
Get large earrings before you decide. And black ones would be my suggestion. Alternative/Indie subculture isn't well known in the US, so people think that earrings look effeminate. And they can but not on certain styles.