.why are so many people here, especially girls so insecure about their clothes nad hair and makeup? it's ridiculous! every time I see a question like "do you guys find pink or black t shirts hotter" makes me wanna scream! Who cares? I understand questions on overall style but seriously, do you actually care if a guy finds your curly hair hotter then your straight hair? and more importantly are there people out there who care? why do people, especially girls let guys opinions dictate what items of clothing they wear or how they should do their makeup? I'm all for dressing to impress, but surely being comfortable and being able to work your style is what's going to come off as attractive! do girls actually think their style of boots is going to get them more guys or something?
don't get me wrong,i love fashion, I love dressing up but doing it solely to impress the opposite sex is so useless!
sorry for the rant :)
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You have a valid perception, there are a lot of repeat questions and repeat circumstances that happen on this website. The answer to all of your questions is the insecurities of people. Their confidence has not quite established to the point of independence which leads to why they even ask these questions- their self esteem.
When tries to guess what the other person may do to a certain circumstance or phrase, people start to become "skiddish" or jumpy, for lack of a better term. This makes them nervous in their own skin, so they come for reassurance to this website. The individuals that ask these questions would merely like to understand that they are doing the socially acceptable thing of buying a certain clothing item, or by changing a certain characteristic of their body.
I agree with you, these questions can become very hectic and frustrating because of our own desire to snap. We don't mean to be derrogative in our remarks; however, those responses are better interpreted as our own guilt for previous experiences where we were hurt for believing we should change for someone. That concept hurts a lot to try and grasp. Fortunately, the ones that have learned this, and grown from those experiences, no longer encounter the same thing happening throughout life.
We know what we offer and as such we feel comfortable in our own skins.
I made the mistake of doing everything I could to keep my previous relationships around. Now that I have stepped back to look at what I was doing compared to what they were offering, I realise that I was being completely trampled and I was looking like a weak fool that allowed those things to happen. I then accepted this information and grew to accomodate that with my personality so that I do not snap at other individuals for attempting the same fate; however, I will not allow this to happen further in my life.
This is your life, what do you want to associate with it? Pain...? Regret...? NO! Of course not.
We all want happiness and to find that, we must find ourselves.
I hope the information proved helpful, it was merely my personal insight - might I recommend looking forward to what the next day offers instead of worrying about these posts? The individuals will find help through other members, there is no sense stressing about it =)