Is that bad? He said all I want is sex how is that he is never home and on his days off he his hanging at friends houses till I am or if he is at hm he goes to bed early cause he is tired.
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Hi Msbossy... I am 30 year old stressed busy careerwoman and hubby only wants sex once a week. Been married 5yrs and this trend started about 4 months after honeymoon. He used to want it so much more. His reason is always stress or being too tired... But c'mon I have similiar job and huge anxiety issues sothats difficult for me to understand.
I have been going crazy needing more...
Went thru all the phases, thnking I was unattractive (I really look after myself, dress sexy and always have stayed well-groomed), thnking he was cheating, thnkng it was a porn addiction, (it was none of the above), being sad, being really angry, being practical and "sorting myself out", now fed up.
Yes, we have talked abt it many times, nothing changes.
I am so... Fed up always trying to spice things up...
Always improving the lingerie, always buying new toys to try, always creating the mood, always waiting from Fri nite to Sundayafternoon to try to get him going (he'll never consider weekdays).
Now think maybe he has performance anxiety... Anyways tired of guessing and trying to problem solve.
Surprise surprise, he won't see a professional because he doesn't think its a problem. After years of making me feel like I am a crazy nympho...
He says we're just wired differently: He needs to feel 100% relaxed be4 it can happen and he says I use it to destress when I am stressed... So that's just it.
My argument is that we are never going to be less stressd/busy than we are now...only more so.
In short I wanted you to know that its a typical response for him to make it sound like you are not normal... Takes the spotlight off him...as if "you" hav the problem. So plz do not fall 4 that, nor for the self-doubting phases I described above. Its not you, sex once a week at your age is not okay...1