In terms of when you fist meet a guy. Do you go by looks, personality, or what?
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On sight, all you've got to go on are looks. At that point, it's about how they carry themselves, whether they're physically fit (I'm an active girl so wouldn't want to hang with a couch potato), have a nice smile, clean teeth, smell nice (too much cologne - ugh), dress well (which means what you're wearing is clean and suits you, not that you're wearing designer threads). You can also be over groomed. Nobody wants an antiseptic princess. At least nobody I know. There's a lot in a first look, but I'm sure it's the same for guys.
A lot of those impressions only last about as long as it takes to get through a conversation - which is where the real indicators are. I've become incredibly attracted to people by complete surprise, and similarly turned off by people who've got it all in the looks department.
Smart women can see right through game - you're not fooling anyone worth getting to know better so just be yourself. It's a cliche I know, but if you're attracted under false pretenses, how long do you really think it's going to last once the facades come down.
So while looks might give you a slight initial advantage, personality always wins out in the end. The guy's got to make me laugh and laugh easily himself (and at himself), he's got to be a genuine and considerate person, he has to be intelligent (not stuck up) - generally he would have to be an evolved guy with at least some interests in common, who's easy to be around.
I ended up marrying someone who was just about the opposite of my type in terms of visual style (he actually looked a little intimidating from across the room), but he won me over about five minutes after he opened his mouth. So there you have it.0