Basically girls say that guys find me intimidating,but I think they are just lying. I'm 17 and 5'10 I'm curvy NOT fat a body in between rhianna and Beyonce, but bigger boobs. I'm pretty, but I'm not going to lie I'm not stunning or anything.I also dress fashionably with a distinct style. I can understand guys being intimidated after they meet me sort of because I am pretty smart and may also seem kind of arrogant. But people always tell me how funny, friendly and lively I am. But they wouldn't know this before they talk to me so I don't understand what about my physical appearance is intimidating.
I know some guys have liked me,but they pretty much told me and still didn't ask me out. Only older guys and Fresh Africans seem to try to talk to me or when a guy is drunk at a club. I have never had a boyfriend.
Just the other week I went to a sort of social club and this guy was really friendly to everyone and just ignored me. He didn't even know me! Also people say they can't imagine me with a guy anyway, what does that mean?
Am I intimidating or is there something wrong with me and why?
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Hey, No there isn't anything wrong with you.
Men nowadays are socially conditioned to think that "if I ignore a hot women, she will wonder why I don't feel attracted to her like all the other men do, so she'll chase me".
Basically that man who ignored u, was because he had this mindset, he wanted u, but tried playing it like society teached him to.
Unfortunately, 90% of men got it all wrong.
When a man has the "balls" to come up to you and talk to u, that's a real man.
When you see a man ignoring you or just seeming uninterested, its most likely mind games, immaturity or lack of self-esteem.
No matter how "intimidating" a girl is, a real man will not care, he will approach her and speak to her like he would with any other girl.
By the way guys, just some advice from a dating coach.. Girls aren't intimidating, even if they are super hotties with attitude problems. What are they going to do? kill you? rip ur head off?
Women aren't space creatures who eat men alive.
They are human beings just like us.