My boyfriend is just slightly taller than me so if I wear heels I am taller than him. We have a dressy event coming up and I'm going to wear a dress, so I definitely want to wear heels. Should I ask him if he's ok with this, or say "screw it" and wear heels regardless of how he would feel?
He's never said anything, but I know guys can be sensitive or insecure about this, and one time one of his friends made fun of him for being so much shorter than me (I was wearing platform heels).
Most Helpful Guy
I'd be fine with her wearing heels.1
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In my experience, men rarely have any kind of issue with this. It's almost universally women who have an aversion to being "the taller one".
In those cases where men DO have an issue, if you dig deep enough, you can usually find the root cause in some time when a taller woman -- either explicitly or through some insinuation -- MADE him feel bad/insecure about it.
1) Dig inside yr own thoughts. Do YOU have any misgivings about being The Taller One?
-- If not, great! Rock it, there won't be a problem. Just give even more attention to the boy than usual -- to start associating this all with good things in his head.
-- If so... watch yrself and yr body language VERY carefully, to make sure this isn't showing and isn't rubbing off on yr interaction with him. If it does, it could poison a lot of future good times.
2) Rock it, and be an even more upbeat, attentive, and affectionate girlfriend -- to reinforce YOUR confidence, and YOUR comfort with HIM, when you are standing taller.
3) He probably won't have any issues. If he does... talk to him about it, and, again, be EXTRA affectionate and in awe of him. <3
I am 3" taller than my husband in mah bare feets, so, you can imagine the height differential when I'm up on mah size 12 platform rigs, lol.
16+ years together...
Number of people who've had anything smart to say about it?
Number of people who've even LOOKED at us weird?
People know. I'm like a little girl, next to him.
Boys will make fun of their friends for ANYTHING.
I swear... The day boys figure out how to make fun of each other for breathing oxygen, they'll start roasting that, too.
If he's taking it hard... remind him of this. (I have 4 brothers, I know it all too well.)3