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I know what you mean, having had long hair my whole life. Try a messy bun, the tutorial has helped. Consider using bobby pins. Remember to get a quality ponytail (I've found the nonmetal ones are best) and put it tight. But not too tight seeing as that can make you lose hair.
Braids are also great and people have said this is a good style for your hair. People love braiding and it's fun to do.
Hairspray is damaging if you use it very often, but every once in a while, you can use it to keep your hair in place, like if you put it in a bun.
Ponytails are helpful as long as you have the right elastic. Hairspray is also helpful for this. You may have thick hair which is the reason it is so difficult. Try finding articles specifically for thick hair