Most Helpful Guy
Dressing nice, making sure I'm clean shaven, wearing cologne etc when I go out mates me feel good and confident about myself.
But I look at at this way-if I was good looking I wouldn't have needed to develop my personality and wouldn't have the kickarse conversation skills that I have now. I may get fobbed off quickly by some girls who dismiss me for my lack of looks, but the ones who don't get treated to my people skills and love to tell me how funny I am which obviously makes me feel great about myself.1
Most Helpful Girl
Ok I actually thought about this one. I am not sure your situation and if it is about not looking the way you want and issues with attraction but I will tell you this. When I was younger I had a pretty decent body and not to bad a face I guess? And I got hit on a lot. I got married young and let myself go. After my divorce I never got myself back but somehow I could still attract decent guys. Now I'm 34, I've lost most of my weight, I'm not bad looking and a lot of guys check me out again. Here's the thing I've noticed in my years of experience, the hotter you are does attract MORE MEN, but it doesn't necessarily attract QUALITY MEN. I am on a stretch of meeting crappy guys and I been meeting "meat heads to geeky awkward antique shoppers who flake out on me. Yet, I have a freind who I love to pieces who is my age 5'1 420lbs (she wasn't always that big but fat) and she married a really great Italian guy who took her and her child in as his own. My point is besides quality men is that I'm a decent girl and I'm alone, guys just want sex from me. She s fucked up and very unhealthy and totally scored. She s a good person but I see lots of "ugly" girls with super hot guys. Sometimes you see a outfit in the store and think gross who would wear that, and the next week it's gone cause someone thought it was the sexiest outfit ever.1