I've been called ugly since I was a little kid and I still get it now - I can make people laugh, be everyone's friend but when it comes down to it girls just DO NOT want to be with me. Yeah, I get laid occasionally but it's almost always because they were horny and I was "there" and not because they like me (this isn't me being an ass, they really tell me this). Also a couple friends told me the only way I'm getting a girl is if I find a really fat, really old drunk one which didn't help with my self-esteem.
And before you say I should lower my standards, I'm not picky at all. I go for any girl that I am attracted to and many that I'm not.
A couple girl friends tried to "help" me out but their solution was to spend a LOT of money on clothes and a nose job (I was in a motorcycle accident so have facial scarring, plus I never had nice skin anyways). As we went around the store I realized that I couldn't afford what they were suggesting clothing wise, much less the surgical part. I mean I could if I sold off my motorcycles and "ate top ramen" three nights a week if you catch my drift. To be honest it would've been half a year's earnings.
Is this the only way to become attractive as a guy? I mean I'm funny and I'm in okay shape (I'm not atlas but I'm not fat, I can go out and ride 10-20 miles on a bicycle no problem, hike whatever) but when it comes down to it the only solutions I'm offered cost $$$$.
So should I buy lottery tickets or just ignore women for the most part and live my life?
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to OP: I'm not necessarily condemning interracial dating here, but I am pointing out there are certain conditions where certain girls drop their standards. Its a double standard that I'm not willing to tolerate. Sure there's plenty of nice people in every race, but I very much dislike B/C interracial dating is so popular. Not being attracted to women of other races, I think it's unfairly dwindled my options (hence my grudge). I randomly asked a friend once, "So, how many white girls do you think are dating black guys in [this city]? and he said "I think.. All of them"
btw, concerning hair, The only times I ever met any girls was when my hair was longer. I tried it with short hair and nothing good happened. Don't keep it extremely long, just a bit grown out. I keep the look that I needed a haircut two months ago. Very long hair on most guys simply looks dirty/ratty.
If you play music well, Keep at it and encourage young people to take up an instrument. By the way being in bands with others who have plenty of social resources is a good way to meet new people who are into what you like to do.0