My girl and I have been in the relationship for a long time now, I'm talking years here. She suddenly breaks up with me...she said she couldn't take me anymore...she said I was stepping on her pride that she can't take it anymore...I admit that I've been a jerk and I didn't treat her well. Then after a few days I see blogs of her saying how much she has loved for the longest time her guy friend. What does that mean? She tells me she broke up with me because she wanted me to change...but how come she allowed herself to fall in love with another guy?
She says that she's confused. I don't know what to think. What she tells me is contradictory. We still talk and see each other and the guy she "loves" happen to like them just to be friends despite the guy telling her he loves her. So she's telling me she's moving on now...and she's confused....she says she's hurt...because she got hurt from me....and from the guy...since the guy left her hanging...but it's been almost a month...and she hasn't gotten over the guy. How come it's so easy for her to move on with me but she can't move on with that guy? She moves on in a matter of days....but with the other guy, she's having a hard time. Does that mean she loves the guy more?
Does that mean that when we're still together she already entertained the guy and found him as a prospect? I don't know what to think. I still love her. I told her I'll wait for her but the facts still remain and it's still confusing. I don't know if I can trust her and if we go back together how can I be sure that she loves me for me and not just because it didn't work out between the two of them?
I know there are many questions but please give advice. I am so confused...
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This might hurt but I think she liked the other guy while you were dating and that's what pushed her past the "breaking" point, so to speak, wherein she chose to break it off with you. In the beginning of any relationship when everything is fresh and new, there is very little not to like. So I can see why it takes some time to get over a guy that she wasn't dating nearly as long as she was dating you. She didn't have as much time to see his ugly side.
At any rate, she's probably just as confused as you are but I think you should move on. She may be very special but you're both young and you should play the field before you commit to a team long-term again.
If you're meant to be with this girl, time will tell. In the meantime, if at all possible, shelve your feelings for her and see who else is out there. There are lots of girls who would not leave you for another guy or expect you to change who you are.