But wouldn't it be better if a guy approached the girl for her personality? It shows a mental/emotional attraction more than animalistic physical attraction
You don't know a girls personality from seeing her in a bar or on the street. Unless you already have mutual friends, you don't know anything but looks.
Women will be less confident in themselves. Those who cover more tend to be insecure and wearing more showing clothing is a way to make yourself comfortable in your own skin. For example a woman wearing a crop top most likely is satisfactory with her stomach, a woman wearing an oversized hoodie might not like her body.
I see it the other way around. Women who reveal too much skin or wear very tight clothes try to project the image of 'the self-confident woman', but in reality they are seeking attention and validation from the others, especially men.
Opposite. I love my body the way it is and I know there is nothing wrong with it. Instead it is tight clothes that make women insecure about the most stupid things on earth. If you wear jeans that is too tight or too low it will push some fat up, the so-called 'muffin top' really isn't something wrong with your body it's just the bad fitting. And then comes stretch marks, cellulite, thigh gap, boobs too small or too big. l, is my stomach looking flat when I sit or is there any fat bulging on my back... Thousands of complaint that never end.
To me, dressing modestly means that I don't feel obligated to put my body up for display and constantly question my worth by my appearance and comparing it with how the media wants it to look like. (Which is pretty unrealistic). Idon't feel the need to worry about the stupidest things like fucking thigh gap or muffin top. I know I'm healthy and fit and I work on my fitness and that's all that matters.
at formal and professional situations it is more respectful to wear modest clothing. or at religious places. you also get taken more seriously in those cases
Um Wrong kind of attention? Stained reputation? Getting chased and/or catcalled? Repulsive to some good guys? Higher chance of rape? Attractive to bad/fake guys? Feeds the ego of many women?
You can't control the masses, so why take this risk? Do you really need this extra bit of conditioning? Or your confidence comes from the way you dress? :/
Wrong kind of attention: What do you mean by wrong?
Stained reputation: If you're hanging out with halfway decent people, they won't care what you're wearing.
Getting chased and/or catcalled: We can't let men control our decisions. If people want to be disgusting and catcall, that's their decision.
Repulsive to some good guys: If they think that they should control what women wear, I would argue they they're not good guys.
Higher chance of rape: That's a myth, created for the purpose of victim blaming. Rape has existed forever, including when women weren't allowed to show their ankles. Rape has nothing to do with clothing, and everything to do with rapists.
Attractive to bad guys: What do you mean by bad?
Feeds the ego of women: Is confidence now considered a bad thing?
And technically, if we're listing every disadvantage we can think of, then I'm going to say heatstroke is a disadvantage of modest dressing. I would consider that a more pressing issue than peoples opinions.
Wrong kind of attention meaning yeah the girl WILL get more attention from people by dressing that way, but most of it is just guys being thirsty Maybe one out of twenty guys will say "beautiful" instead of "sexy af", of course that's not mentioning the "bitch stares" but that's irrelevant
And I don't mean hanging out with people, I mean in general If you're the girl in the neighbourhood who leaves the house every morning to jog wearing tights/sports bra or whatever, by time, your reputation around the neighbourhood will get worse
Most people are disgusting, you can't change that, but why make yourself go through that when you can just avoid it?
There are some really good guys out there who are looking for a pure nice girl they can claim for themselves only, for example, I wouldn't mind hanging out with a girl who shows too much skin, but I'd never see her as wife material, and that's because I'm conservative by nature and I want a girl who can be for my eyes only and vice versa
Not really, if a woman is covered, dangerous men won't see what she's got in store, and there's a higher chance that they won't bother
Some guys approach a girl at a bar for example just because they saw that she looked good, and being this shwallow, they try to fake their way through to her pants just to leave her the day after
Confidence doesn't come from the way you dress, confidence doesn't mean you need validation from people so you can feel confident There are plenty of girls who are covered and are some of the most confident girls I've ever known, it's because they're proud of who they are, not necessarily what they look like
Heatstroke can be easily fixed using the right fabrics and/or colors, it's not really an issue
I'm saying this because I see from experience, even from my closest of friends, once they see a girl wearing something fishy, they sexualize her almost instantly, no matter how good or pure they seem And I hate when women are seen as a sex object, so yeah you can see where I'm coming from, it's not slut shaming, that's a completely different story
You've elaborated on what you mean by "wrong kind of attention," but you still haven't explained why you think it is wrong. Besides, women shouldn't have to dress a certain way because of what other people will think. She can just tell the others to mind their own business if it bothers her.
The reputation argument is pretty weak. If people are that concerned with their reputation, there's a deeper problem.
I think we have very different criteria for what is considered a good guy. I'm not interested in anyone who would be offended by other people's clothing choices. If you want someone who dresses modestly, then that's your choice, but it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with the girls who don't.
I've already addressed the rape argument. Rape is more about asserting power than about sex. Rapists find easy targets. People who trust them, or who are defenseless. Clothing is irrelevant.
Also, I've been catcalled while wearing jeans and an oversized sweater.
I don't think I've ever made that assumption with modest outfits. I've thought subconsciously "there's probably no boobs under there" if she's wearing really baggy clothes.
There are none but women will still wear unmodest clothes for what ever reason.
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I prefer to dress modestly (as in coverage wise) and it rarely becomes a problem. Although, I do hate wearing sleeves in the summer. So I wear sleeveless when it is hot out.
Yes when you give too much freedom people tend to take advantage of it. And well judging by how a lot of girls are dressed yh i’d say they definitely took advantage of it.
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It might be harder for them to find appropriate clothes as our society becomes more and more immodest.
Not really. I dress like a little prude pretty often and I'm happy.
Girls mighr think she is prudish or rhinks she's better than everyone else.
Men may think she's also prudish and not approach her because they'll just get shot down
These are just guesses, everyone is different in how they asess other people
But wouldn't it be better if a guy approached the girl for her personality?
It shows a mental/emotional attraction more than animalistic physical attraction
You don't know a girls personality from seeing her in a bar or on the street. Unless you already have mutual friends, you don't know anything but looks.
Well most guys in a bar would approach a girl for her looks
Only a small portion of guys would approach a girl to know her better
I think it decreases the chances of getting a bad guy who fakes being a good one
Kinda filters the bad guys out ya know? What do you think?
We aren't talking about how to maintain interest. My key word was "approach "
Well maintaining pure attraction is more important
Getting approached isn't always good
You have to be approached first. I didn't say that looking attractive was more important , thats not what this is about.
I rather like that innocent feminine look. Dresses and girly things and dressing modest doesn't mean bad
Women will be less confident in themselves. Those who cover more tend to be insecure and wearing more showing clothing is a way to make yourself comfortable in your own skin. For example a woman wearing a crop top most likely is satisfactory with her stomach, a woman wearing an oversized hoodie might not like her body.
I see it the other way around. Women who reveal too much skin or wear very tight clothes try to project the image of 'the self-confident woman', but in reality they are seeking attention and validation from the others, especially men.
@BlueLights So it's more of a compensation issue.
Opposite. I love my body the way it is and I know there is nothing wrong with it. Instead it is tight clothes that make women insecure about the most stupid things on earth. If you wear jeans that is too tight or too low it will push some fat up, the so-called 'muffin top' really isn't something wrong with your body it's just the bad fitting. And then comes stretch marks, cellulite, thigh gap, boobs too small or too big. l, is my stomach looking flat when I sit or is there any fat bulging on my back... Thousands of complaint that never end.
To me, dressing modestly means that I don't feel obligated to put my body up for display and constantly question my worth by my appearance and comparing it with how the media wants it to look like. (Which is pretty unrealistic). Idon't feel the need to worry about the stupidest things like fucking thigh gap or muffin top. I know I'm healthy and fit and I work on my fitness and that's all that matters.
Yeah I don't think I need to say anything here
The replies and downvotes say it all haha
When you realize what you said is dumb as fuck but don't know how to delete it
Haha it's alright we're all learning from each other here ^_^
It's ok people fuck up things but learn from them.
at formal and professional situations it is more respectful to wear modest clothing. or at religious places.
you also get taken more seriously in those cases
No? Are there disadvantages to women wearing more revealing clothes, other than "distracting?"
Um
Wrong kind of attention?
Stained reputation?
Getting chased and/or catcalled?
Repulsive to some good guys?
Higher chance of rape?
Attractive to bad/fake guys?
Feeds the ego of many women?
You can't control the masses, so why take this risk?
Do you really need this extra bit of conditioning?
Or your confidence comes from the way you dress? :/
Wrong kind of attention: What do you mean by wrong?
Stained reputation: If you're hanging out with halfway decent people, they won't care what you're wearing.
Getting chased and/or catcalled: We can't let men control our decisions. If people want to be disgusting and catcall, that's their decision.
Repulsive to some good guys: If they think that they should control what women wear, I would argue they they're not good guys.
Higher chance of rape: That's a myth, created for the purpose of victim blaming. Rape has existed forever, including when women weren't allowed to show their ankles. Rape has nothing to do with clothing, and everything to do with rapists.
Attractive to bad guys: What do you mean by bad?
Feeds the ego of women: Is confidence now considered a bad thing?
And technically, if we're listing every disadvantage we can think of, then I'm going to say heatstroke is a disadvantage of modest dressing. I would consider that a more pressing issue than peoples opinions.
Wrong kind of attention meaning yeah the girl WILL get more attention from people by dressing that way, but most of it is just guys being thirsty
Maybe one out of twenty guys will say "beautiful" instead of "sexy af", of course that's not mentioning the "bitch stares" but that's irrelevant
And I don't mean hanging out with people, I mean in general
If you're the girl in the neighbourhood who leaves the house every morning to jog wearing tights/sports bra or whatever, by time, your reputation around the neighbourhood will get worse
Most people are disgusting, you can't change that, but why make yourself go through that when you can just avoid it?
There are some really good guys out there who are looking for a pure nice girl they can claim for themselves only, for example, I wouldn't mind hanging out with a girl who shows too much skin, but I'd never see her as wife material, and that's because I'm conservative by nature and I want a girl who can be for my eyes only and vice versa
Not really, if a woman is covered, dangerous men won't see what she's got in store, and there's a higher chance that they won't bother
Some guys approach a girl at a bar for example just because they saw that she looked good, and being this shwallow, they try to fake their way through to her pants just to leave her the day after
Confidence doesn't come from the way you dress, confidence doesn't mean you need validation from people so you can feel confident
There are plenty of girls who are covered and are some of the most confident girls I've ever known, it's because they're proud of who they are, not necessarily what they look like
Heatstroke can be easily fixed using the right fabrics and/or colors, it's not really an issue
I'm saying this because I see from experience, even from my closest of friends, once they see a girl wearing something fishy, they sexualize her almost instantly, no matter how good or pure they seem
And I hate when women are seen as a sex object, so yeah you can see where I'm coming from, it's not slut shaming, that's a completely different story
You've elaborated on what you mean by "wrong kind of attention," but you still haven't explained why you think it is wrong. Besides, women shouldn't have to dress a certain way because of what other people will think. She can just tell the others to mind their own business if it bothers her.
The reputation argument is pretty weak. If people are that concerned with their reputation, there's a deeper problem.
I think we have very different criteria for what is considered a good guy. I'm not interested in anyone who would be offended by other people's clothing choices. If you want someone who dresses modestly, then that's your choice, but it doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with the girls who don't.
I've already addressed the rape argument. Rape is more about asserting power than about sex. Rapists find easy targets. People who trust them, or who are defenseless. Clothing is irrelevant.
Also, I've been catcalled while wearing jeans and an oversized sweater.
We seem to have different criteria about everything to be honest haha
Oh well, I learned many things from your point of view and I hope you did from mine too :3
Have an amazing day 👋❤
Modest? That Isa term men use to make woman feel bad i Will West whatever i want! No one can control me and free and me.
The one I've noticed.. there are many who tend to smell and not in a good way.
Well, if you're fully covered when it's like 30°C outside, you're bound to sweat more than those who wear next to nothing.
Wearing white and picking the right cloth would terminate that problem
But you should weigh it here
Would you really risk your reputation and be seen as a "slut" just for a bit of extra conditioning?
It beats me why they all choose to wear black.
I might think twice if I lived in Saudi Arabia, but I don't.
Meh forget Saudi Arabia
I'm not talking about Burqa or that extreme shit
I'm saying covered+beautiful
I dont think so so far the only disadvantage is that people assume that you have no boobs 😂
I don't think I've ever made that assumption with modest outfits. I've thought subconsciously "there's probably no boobs under there" if she's wearing really baggy clothes.
What do you consider "modest" clothes.
Baggy clothes that aren't fitted and show no skin?
Anything from Hijab to this
Generally covered
I guess I don't understand the motivations of some of the posters. Are you claiming that in your country, women are dressing too provocatively?
i dress modestly . and i don't let that get in the way when i'm ready and easy .
I sometimes think they look hot and uncomfortable in hot weather - Also just walking around is a good way to get a colour from the sun
There are none but women will still wear unmodest clothes for what ever reason.
I prefer to dress modestly (as in coverage wise) and it rarely becomes a problem. Although, I do hate wearing sleeves in the summer. So I wear sleeveless when it is hot out.
I dont find any unless we country job wise or social standing.
Yes when you give too much freedom people tend to take advantage of it. And well judging by how a lot of girls are dressed yh i’d say they definitely took advantage of it.
I dont think there are any disadvantages of wearing modest clothing.
Well nicer clothes they wear nicer they look but hey if they feel the most comfortable in this clothes then why not