Most women tend to define themselves by some sort of socially recognized identity (the bad girl, the nice girl, the nerdy girl, the fun girl, etc.). When the fun girls or party girls learn that I don't drink, they assume I'm uptight and judgmental, and thereby unattractive. The nice girls, who often have reservations or guilt about their own drinking, perceive me as "nicer" than themselves, which makes me a threat to their self-definition, and thereby unattractive.
One possible solution is to explain my sobriety by saying I am a recovering alcoholic. That will make me interesting, strong-willed, and committed to self-improvement, but at the same time, a little bad (attractive). They'll eventually figure it out, but that will make me a liar, which is also a little bad (attractive). The nice girls will be fine with it, because they'll be able to feel like they're better than me.
I probably wouldn't actually do it, because I'm an honest dude, but it's an interesting idea. What do you think, would it work?
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wow, are you serious? are girls that judgmental to you?
I don't think you have to lie about yourself to get a girl to like you.
I'm sure there will be a girl that doesn't mind if you don't like drinking.
My guy also does not like drinking because his dad was an alcoholic drunk.
My family is pure Christian and so my dad does not approve of us partying/drinking and all that other stuff.
So I am a non-drinker and when I found out he doesn't drink either, it was a great thing. Because the last guy I dated before him was an alcoholic and always drinked way too much beer. so I was happy he didn't drink. I didn't judge him or think he would judge me or anything, I just liked him because he was my type. He worked hard, was super smart, didn't drink, quit smoking and he was willing to win me over.
Find a girl who will like you for you, for the non-alcoholic that you are. I'm sure there are some other there. good luck