I've seen a few posts on here from guys that seem to be a little bitter about the dating game. Whatever their reasons are, I read something they said on a few different posts that disturbed me. They said that girls have it so easy in the dating world because all we have to be is hot. That we can be insecure, stupid, bitchy, etc. But if we're hot, we're considered girlfriend material, and guys will always want to be with us. They think it's dumb that women care so much about personality (because that causes us to be more picky), and don't understand why we don't just care about looks like they do.
Is this true? I know they were meaning it to seem like we had it so easy, but it's actually made me thing quite a bit about what guys want. I feel that I have a lot to offer a man physically and personality, and it's really depressing for me to think that my personality doesn't matter that much. That my looks are the main factor and I could be any fake, dumb chick off the street and I'd still have plenty of guys after me. That the things I believe are very unique and special about myself, guys won't appreciate at all.
Are these guys right? Is a good personality just a bonus but not a necessity? Looks are the necessity?
- Yes, looks are the biggest factorVote A
- No, looks aren't the biggest factorVote B
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well in general men and women usually are lookin for different things in a mate. biologically speaking, men want a girl who is attractive to HIM, and every guy has different taste(unless he's a follower and just shapes his tastes around media, his friends etc etc). Then if he's attracted to her he wants her to be pleasant company for a possible relationship.
That scares girls because most of you are insecure about your looks. And seeing as guys are so chicken sh*t to even try to hit on girls, girls just assume they aren't good looking and develop a negative self image.
Girls are more interested in a guys personality usually because looks alone don't say too much about who he is and what he's about. Sure it says a little but she has to talk to him to see if she likes him or is repelled by his character. Its similar to guys but guys usually think attractive or not first.
If you think about it, girls have a more mature attitude for long term relationships.
Now, to address those idiots on this board that say a girls personality doesn't matter... those guys are obviously virgins who have never dated a hot crazy chick who drives them insane. Once you've dated one of them, you learn your lesson lol1