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Well, put yourself in our position cary1391. Guys have all the same insecurities as girls. We fear rejection just as much. We feel the sting of criticism just as sharply.
But we’re expected to make the first move. Guys have to put their fragile egos out on display in front of everyone, and wait for those egos to be either patted or stomped on.
And guys are really confused about how they are supposed to behave around girls. Gen X and Y guys have been told that girls don’t like chest-thumping Alpha-male behaviour. Our mums and aunts and sisters have drummed into us that we should treat women as equals and neither put them on pedestals nor objectify them. And yet every time we go out, we see evidence of nice girls responding to exactly the sort of behavior we’ve been told to avoid.
So we don’t know what a girl is looking for, we know we stand a pretty good chance of getting rejected, and we’re insecure about our own shortcomings. If sex wasn’t such a great pastime, I really think most guys would rather just chill and watch (insert sport here) or go round to a mate’s place and play (insert violent video game with zombies here)
That’s what stops us going up to a girl. If you want to increase your “hit” rate, you need to make it ABSOLUTELY clear to him that you are interested. A smile and eye contact may not be enough. Why not take the risk and go up to him? Once he knows you’re interested he may step up. Or you might get rejected. But even if that happens, at least you’ll know what it feels like and what stops some guys going up to girls... Good luck! :D