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I don't know if I'd say it makes me more confident, but it definitely feels good. I have a tendency sometimes to go heads-down when I'm working on an interesting project (either for work or personally). When I do, I neglect some things; I let my hair get too long, let my beard get unruly, wear whatever old clothes I have around. That kind of thing.Eventually, I come up for air, go get trimmed up, put on a decent shirt and rejoin humanity. That feels pretty alright.
Not confident, but better!
Me too :)
Not so much. It makes me feel more attractive and helps me think I have a better chance of attracting people if I feel like it, but my confidence comes more from not being so afraid to even look like a slob or make a bad impression on people.
If I use an analogy of performing something on stage, maybe a lot of extra time spent preparing and rehearsing might help people become less nervous on stage. But ultimately not being nervous on stage comes down to not being afraid of making a mistake. The most confident person there, I'd say, is the one who doesn't feel nervous even with minimal preparation.
Meanwhile, someone could spend countless hours rehearsing and still be a nervous wreck on stage. I'm more like the guy who isn't nervous even if I don't rehearse at all and just improvise on the spot, cause I don't see making a mistake or even being booed by the audience as a big deal. Same with fashion. I mean if I do want to do well and reap some reward, I'll rehearse in the performance case, and likewise dress up for social events. But I don't get nervous even if I don't.
Besides that, we have to like slobs sometimes, no? Who wants to dress up every single day? I'd get so tired of that. So I prefer to just chill and dress up sometimes for an occasion or when I was single when I wanted to improve my chances of getting a date. But I could ask a girl out back then even if all I was wearing was a bathrobe and I had a bed head. I think the chances of her not rejecting me would be lower, but I'm okay with rejection.
I even got a date long ago on Halloween in my early 20s (was so skinny back then) dressed like this:And the girl started flirting with me before she even saw my face. She told me I was so confident and fearless:So I don't think confidence should be tied to how you look so that you can look like a complete idiot like me there and still not be nervous at all. Ideally, it's divorced as much as possible. It should be tied as much as possible to how you think rather than how others think about you.
For that one, I also performed on stage in front of several hundred people. It was for a girl's Halloween costume contest (and that's why I dressed up in the bumblebee dress). I wanted to participate. And for the talent part, I did a ballet dance that I improvised on the spot with no rehearsal. Some of the guys booed but then I mooned all of them by pulling down my underwear and showing my ass to everyone there. That's when the girls started to take an interest. Unfortunately, they couldn't give me a prize since I was a guy and the contest was for girls, but I got an honorable mention. So I tend to repeat myself a lot but I think confidence is more about not being afraid to fail than about thinking you have a higher chance of success.
Sure cause your proud of what people see on first impressions!
I usually look like a dogs dinner lol.
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