Right now I'm in college and I'm going to be in school for at least three more years. I want to get a few piercings now with the intention of taking them out once I graduate. Currently, I only have pierced ear lobes.
My boyfriend and I have been fighting about this for awhile now. He doesn't want me to get any because he thinks they're unattractive, while I think I should have the right to do whatever I want to my body without him berating me for it.
We've reached a sort of compromise-- I'm allowed to pierce any part of my ears. I'm never allowed to pierce my belly button or my upper lip, because those are the two he hates most. If I want any other piercing, I have to discuss it with him first (though I get the feeling most "discussions" would just be him saying no).
I don't know how I feel about this compromise and what's the right thing to do in this situation.
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Ive been in that situation with my tattoos. I already have a couple, but the guys I've dated always did not like tats at all, and would have had a coronary if I came around with a new one. Personally, while I love tats it didn't mean enough to me to get another knowing how much my guy didn't like them..had no idea of what tat I wanted next anyway.
But if I did have my heart set on one, and my guy argued with me on what I could and couldn't do with my body...I don't know, that would set me off. I'm snarky enough that I would have ended up with both arms in sleeves, a full back piece and whatever else I could think of lol
Another tidbit, my ex before last who hated tats, asked me if I had piercings cause he absolutely could and would not tolerate those. I told him no and he was relieved...I like periecings on other people, scared to get them myself anyway :P Wouldn't you know it...long after we were apart, one of the girls he was dating had all sorts of piercings. I would have been mad as all give out if I didn't get piercings causwe of him, only to find out he ended up with a girl with as many as he described.
I guess the moral of this story lol is do what you feel is right for you. If he doesn't like it, someone else will love it and maybe even support it. This is just piercings afterall...what else might he put his restrictions on in the future?