Please let me know what you think about this. I have been friends with this guy I'll call Mike for about a year. I suspected that he liked me initially because he asked for my number and always wanted to do me little favors. Recently, I think I have felt sexual tension when I'm with Mike. For example, I really enjoy talking to him, and we share a lot of the same opinions. Sometimes I look at him and think he's cute. However, I never fantasize about kissing him and don't want him to touch me. Do I like him, or am I just leading him on?
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It sounds like he's growing on you in the "like" department. "Love by proximity" if you will, those who you like (platonic-ly) for a long time tend to grow on you in other ways. Though, its not that more instant crush sensations all at once deal, it starts in the smaller things (like,"wait.he's cute, why didn't I notice that before", etc thoughts). It just works backwards because you befriended the person first and are now noticing all the 'lusty' things second (that people tend to credit to the rest of their crushes first).
Thats one reason why you may not fantasize about the kiss,etc. The other may be a fear that those kind of thoughts or activities will sabotage the friendship. But by that same token, nothing is going to progress if you keep it that way. (or not very quickly).
But it sounds like he truly used to like-like you, and probably some part of him still does and could come right back. Just play it as yo go and see how things go!