I have a receding hairline kinda like Daniel Day Lewis yet I'm only 20. I'm thinking of just saying f*** it and get used to having shaved head...the only problem is I'm quite sensitive to remarks, and the fact that I've always had long shaggy hair (don't even look balding to most people) will mean that I will get a lot comments. My self-esteem is bad enough, and I often use my hair to hide beneath (like Michael Stipe said when he did the same) - so having to cut it although frustrating is ultimately needed,
nonetheless I'm worried. I'm naturally shy, and although I've been told I am attractive by some girls, the whole confidence factor (trying to deal with it) means I'm not very succesful. now I worry that receding hairline is going to make things even worse.
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I started losing my hair at 20 and it started with a big old bald spot in the back. I'm 26 now and it's grown consistently every year. I'll tell you what I've found to be true and not true in these 6 years.
When it comes down to it, if a girl is interested in talking to you for some other reason, balding (yes, just say it, you're balding) isn't going to cancel it out. Some girls find it very unattractive, but face it, you probably wouldn't be with ones that shallow and superficial anyway, right? And I have had 2 girlfriends tell me specifically that they liked my head/hair. For many women it's a sign of virility, as it should be - it generally results from the presence of excess testosterone breaking down hair follicles. Bald guys generally are more potent.
Let's clear something else up too - being partially bald isn't in itself unattractive. However, baldING is unattractive. Your instincts are correct - either shave it all off or keep it really, really short. I trim my beard and my hair with the same trimmer on the same setting. In 6 years, only one person has ever made a joke about my hair, and it was a guy who was jealous of me for many, many other reasons.
You guessed it. It's about confidence. That's why you see fat guys out there with girls - they learned how to talk to girls to make themselves seem desirable. Basically, shave it off/way down and forget about it. The fact is that NO ONE cares about it even 1% as much as you do. The less you care about it, the better off you'll be.
I'm also learning that guys like us are dodging a bullet - we're not going to have some BS midlife crisis at 42 when other guys start noticing themselves losing it. We're already dealing with it now basically at the tail end of adolescence so we're getting rid of the anxiety along with pimples and virginity and that other awkward stuff. Really, it's a blessing in the long run.
Just be your own man and do what you want. That's what attracts women.1
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