how do some guys get numbers and dates so easy and I never have?
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It's REALLY isn't the jackass part of a jerk that makes women like him.
Imo, the #1 factor of jerks getting girls is the # of girls they ask out. They probably ask out 50 girls a week, no joke. Like in sales, the more prospecting/marketing that is done, the more odds he has @ making sales.
I'm in salesman, so I'll use myself as an analogical example.
When I do cold-calls from the phone book, I give my script on the phone, then I gauge the person's interest via tone of voice (assuming I don't get the phone slammed in my face lol).
*If they're interested, I aim to set an appointment.
*If they're not interested, I politely end the phone call (time is $$$; no need to waste time).
*If I'm unsure, I ASSUME they're interested & aim to set an appointment.
Talking to girls (total strangers, that is), to be frank, is similar to "cold prospecting" in sales. The two things to take from my personal analogical example:
1) numbers, numbers, NUMBERS. Most guys that get a lot of girls, will honestly tell you that they ask out A LOT of girls. Thus their "success %" honestly is quite low. Don't pride yourself on going "for a high success rate." My agency CEO said, out of his own mouth via conference call, "the most successful agents aren't the best sales people; they're the best prospectors".
Think about it.
2) Confidence is key. Once you approach you # say your opening words, GAUGE HER DEMEANOR. If she's obviously blowing you off, don't waste time "trying to win her". On to the next one. If she is interested, get her #. If you're unsure if she's interested, ASSUME she is, while you're continuing to gauging her. You'll know if she's interested, or is "just being polite" if you pay close attention.
My response was long-winded...so hopefully it did something to help you out with your dilemma. Talking to girls takes people skills, so sorry ladies; as bad as it sounds, talking to y'all IS a skill.
Remember what my agency CEO said, & you'll learn this skill soon enough.2