What characteristics and traits about them specifically make you like them or get attracted to them?
Please specify, really would help me :)
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You know, I hate when guys misinterpret why so many girls are stuck with jerks. There are a small group of girls who enjoy the "abuse" and there is a large majority who do not, like myself. I hate jerks, I absof***inglutely hate jerks. I would never, ever, everrrrrrrr, go out of my way to date someone I consider a jerk.
That being said, I have ended up with jerks; mostly compulsive liars, to say the least. Guys who pretend to be all chivalrous, generous, wise, and sweet, when in reality they're just lying through their teeth, but that's different.
Most girls I know who end up with jerks end up with jerks because the nice guys are unavailable. This is mainly because:
Nice guys may be shy, they might not be very outgoing
Many nice guys don't feel "good enough"
At my university, most nice guys don't know how to dress or groom in a presentable manner
They don't know how to approach women (because they never try, and those who do tend to approach the wrong women and get rejected)
They are traumatized by rejection
And some even feel as if women owe it to them to go and talk to them.
Although that is a vast generalization, from where I'm standing and from what I've seen it holds up plenty of water. In fact, it holds up the Niagara Falls.
So the only reason why so many girls (who don't like jerks) end up with them is because they are the only ones available to us. The reason why we don't date the "nice guys" is because we literally don't know if they exists, and if we do we assume you're taken or simply not interested.
To answer your question: There is nothing in a "jerk" that appeals to me, not one single aspect.
But that's just my outlook.1