I've known this girl for over a year now. We have been friends like we would see each other at school and I would drive her home sometimes. She has a very bubbly personality and she's friends with just about everybody girls and guys - to the point that its impossible to know what kind of relationship she has with any of them. She is also definitely not shy about showing affection to her friends like showering them with hugs and saying "I love you" to everybody which baffles me to no end because then the phrase just looses its meaning.
Eventually I got to know her and started to develop feelings for her which I kept secret but recently she asked me to go to homecoming with her. That was a night of mixed messages but by the end of the night I realized she still thought of us as just friends. This spurred a reaction in me that confused me it now feels like I'm in love with her and I finally worked up the courage to tell her something to that effect (love is a strong word for me to use we're still in high school). Her reaction was amazement and asking if I was drunk because she'd never seen this side of me before (this was over the phone). I convinced her otherwise because I wasnt drunk and she said that she was too good for me and I wouldn't like her if I knew her outside of school (which in my moment of boldness said was a load of sh*t and she agreed that maybe it actually was) and that she had been really stressed lately and had to think things through. so I'm giving her space now but we still kinda hang out at school and it seems like we may be closer friends now (she wears my senior picture in her ID lanyard and says that she "loves it") but in the back of my mind I still want an answer because it kills me everyday knowing I could be with her. Its just so confusing because I've never had feelings like this for a girl and I sure did choose a complicated girl to have them for. Any thoughts on what I should do next? Sorry for the long question!
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she said she was too good for you? or did you typo and she said that YOU were to good for her?
this chick sounds extremely familiar to me, because I've been in that exact position with a guy before. I loved him to death and told him I loved him and we hung out and had a blast, but then one day he dropped a bomb and said he had serious feelings for me and wanted to know if I was as interested in him, and it terrible, because seriously, as much as I may love the hell out of a guy, I am a serious COMMITMENT PHOBE. it's terrible, like I can be practically head-over-heels for a guy (even a guy-bff) but once I know that they have the same feelings for me, I freak out and feel like I wouldn't be able to be that girlfriend figure that people expect when they're in a relationship. so, this could very well be the same case with her, as much as she may like you, she could have a commitment phobia, or maybe she loves you to death and wouldn't want to f*** up a great friendship over taking it to the next step. either way, don't let it get weird with her, and don't get defensive with her (thats what happened with me). I wish that my guy had just walked up to me and been like "listen, I told you straight up how I felt about you, and for whatever reason you don't want to be with me like that, then it's cool, I love you regardless, just lemme know what you want!" it would've made the situation SO much better. so my advice, say that to her ;)1