Ok a little background, I am 20 and I have cerebral palsy, (spastic diplegia) and basically I use a cane and I used to wear braces on my legs (because I "pop" back in my knees) until like 7th grade when I decided they aren't cute and I don't wanna wear them anymore. Well I saw a doctor on Monday who said it would be in my best interest to wear them again to save my knees because in the future I could really ruin my knees. OK so I can't decide if I want to heed his advice and just do it or just ignore it and take my chances. I am 20 years old now and I care a lot about my image, I am young and pretty. I am lucky, I have an AMAZING boyfriend and when I told him he was like "it doesn't matter you're still going to be beautiful" , and as much as I am almost for sure he is like THE ONE... I hope we would never break up, but if we do then how am I going to find another guy? I lucked out and met a great guy who didn't care about me having a handicap but I don't think there are many guys like that. What guy will date a girl with braces on her legs, I REFUSE to be a loser... I mean I think its rough enough attracting the kind of guys I like now and having a disability just makes it ten times harder to pull decent guys so why would I want to hamper that by looking like a loser in braces... like... no I just think I should... take my chances and whatever...
I am really considering just getting the braces and wearing them again for like distant walking, but the thing is I want to get married and have babies... who is going to want to marry me? I mean it sucks but all I have to rely on is the fact that I am attractive (to some) and I am nice... if I don't have pretty then what? What attracts guys to girls? being pretty... guys don't like ugly girls, and I already have enough issues with my handicap why would any guy want to deal with that?
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ok common sense...if your boyfriend is encouraging you to get them and that he'll still like you then I don't understand why you won't do it. and even if he said ew that's gross I won't be with you...you still know what would be best for you and that's to get the braces. Obviously if you don't get them your going to get worse. so your taking the chance of these are your words "actually being a loser" and messing up your legs more or getting better with the braces. Real guys don't care about beauty they care about what's on the inside. No one wants a dumb pretty girl so be smart and get the braces. A guy that loves and cares for you will be there no matter what issues you have. So don't worry about it. do what you need too.
I use to wear a back brace before I got surgery and there were people that picked on me all the time...though I wasn't a loser and I would never say you are just because you have a handicap. People includinmg my boyfriend tell me I'm pretty all the time, I would have been a hunch back with out the brace around my back...you gotta do what you gotta do.1