Most Helpful Guy
Some things to consider:
> Where do you go and who are you looking for? You probably won't find Venice Beach weightlifters at the local Barnes & Noble in the Philosophy section.
> Do you expose yourself, or are you cocooned? Meaning, when you're out with your friends, are you in the middle of a big group that would probably look unapproachable to a guy, or do you wander from the herd to give guys a chance to talk to you without having to go through the bodyguards first? (Not saying that they really are guards, but that's how guys see it.)
> Do you give guys any cues that you're interested? When you see a guy you like, do you glance over a few times (making sure he catches you looking)? Do you flash him a coy smile, brush your hair back over your ears, that kind of thing? Most guys, if they don't think you're showing any signs of interest, won't approach you. We're good enough at getting turned down by people who did show (what we thought were) signs of interest; we don't need more practice with people who aren't showing signs!
> Do you ask any guys out? If you really want to make an impression on him, make the first move. He'll remember your name and face like you were his first kiss, not to mention that he'll walk around for the rest of the night with his chest puffed out a little further and a little more swagger in his step! This also ties into the type of guy you're looking for. Assuming that you truly are beautiful, most guys assume that you're constantly hit on and therefore, can take your pick of the boys (prompting that whole "what would she ever see in me?" line of thought). Also, it means the players are going to be hitting on you constantly, pushing the others out of the picture.
> How do you dress, based on where you hang out? If you're going to the local country bar while wearing designer dresses and drinking Rémy Martin congac, the people there will probably assume that you're some high-maintenance trust fund baby and won't bother with you.
Remember that your friends know you. They know what you're like once you get to know someone, so although they're helpful, they may not be a good gauge regarding how approachable you are. My friends know I'd do anything for them and am one of the most helpful, nicest guys on Earth, but to look at me, you'd think I'm the kind of guy who steals candy from babies and kicks puppies for fun.
Just some thoughts...1