I'm the cute girl, pretty much. Sometimes hot. It seems like either I'm not good looking enough or too good looking and guys are afraid to approach me. What is with that?
If guys like good looking girls why won't they approach them? Are there any confident guys out there who aren't complete assholes? All the really confident guys seem to be sex-crazy jerks.
Sometimes I just want a John Wayne or good old country boy. That moderately good-looking guy who's not afraid to approach you but also has manners and respects you.
Is that just too much to ask anymore? I don't believe in SBM (sex before marriage) and it seems like that's just too much to ask too.
But on the other hand, guys get mad or jealous if you've "been with" another guy. So what is it you guys want? I know what I want in a guy, but it doesn't seem like he exists these days.
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Here's the thing: at your age, nearly any guy who is overly confident is going to want to use that "power" to get sex, because for teen guy, sex is the ultimate prize. These guys are NOT "nice guys"; most of them are a-holes, but they do have confidence/arrogance, and that's attractive, especially to younger girls. But those guys will want sex, and they'll want it quickly, and if they don't get it, they're going to move on to a girl who they can get it from.
The other guys are the less-confident guys. Those guys don't have a lot of experience with girls, and have probably only ever asked out a few, and probably got rejected more than they succeeded. So they don't bother risking rejection by asking out the hot, popular girls because most of them won't have anything to do with a nice but less-confident, less experienced guy. But that's the kind of guy you need, because they're the only ones willing to go along with no SBM. They'll take you and the relationship seriously, but YOU are going to have to make the first moves, and you're going to have to give them LOTS of "postive" feedback so that they understand that, if they're willing to gather the courage to risk asking you out, that they'll probably get a "yes" in return.
You don't have to straight-up ask them out, but go up and talk to them, touch them, spend time with them, etc. until they get the hint that, yes, you really ARE interested in them (they'll be cautious at first).