I am 42 and currently married and seeking a divorce (23 years married) I am having a "Fun sexual relationship" with a 26 year old, in a relationship co-worker. He swear that he loves his girlfriend and I know that this is not true. I am getting attached, he always says this is not a relationship. how to handle and I want to be a bigger part of his life. But how? Also should I?
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I've been in your shoes, and it didn't turn out well. If he is vocalizing that he loves his girlfriend, believe him. He is using you for fun and excitement. I know you are longing for that right now as well, but I advise you to break ties. Maybe you are worried that you can't/ won't find anyone else? That's how I felt so I continued on with the affair even though I knew it was wrong. There is NOTHING quite like the pain of an affair gone bad. Being in a 23 year marriage and now finding someone that makes you feel alive again is the best feeling ever, but that feeling won't last with a person that is already committed in another relationship. People told me to get away from the married man. They warned me over and over again, but I needed to learn for myself and it was one of the hardest lessons learned. Try and get yourself out and about and look for someone single. It's scary because of our age, but you will find someone that you won't have to share. Good luck to you and believe me when I tell you that I understand what you're going through. I hope you can be stronger than I was. Please keep us posted.0