I didn't really know where to put this, so I just put it in this category.
I have been rejected a few times and I've always felt like it was a personal failure. I've heard that this is not how you should look at it, but how else should you look at it? I always feel like complete crap after I've been trying to get to know someone and flirting with them, but then being denied.
I guess I was just wondering if any of you think of it in a different way and, I guess, how I should think about it?
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You shouldn't look at it as a personal failure, look at it as a personal growth. You're not getting rejected because there's something wrong with you, or there's something that you're doing wrong, but it's because they don't feel like you're a good fit for them, therefore they don't want to lead you into thinking otherwise, which in the end would hurt more. You have to look at it like they're helping you find someone who is right for you, and the rejection will just make you stronger for when you do find someone who is right for you, and you're right for her in return.1