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My brother sums it up best for me - you never really stop loving.
My wife was my first everything in a woman, and we're getting divorced this August. It was a rough 4 months there, as I copied with her not loving me anymore, though I still loved her last Summer. I still loved her, but it started to fade until the romantic feelings were completely gone another 4 months later.
You begin to appreciate how much they taught you, both through love and through pain. You begin to realize more things about them that you did not like. Close friends and family can start to tell you how they really felt about your ex all along.
I wrote a story to help in my profile. I'm actually on this site to help people get over break-ups and to prevent them. It's a great way to learn that you are NOT alone and others have gone and are actually going through the same pain.
How I got through my soon-to-be-ex-wife no longer loving me was to focus on me. It's not selfish, it was actually a long time coming. I read books on topics I had avoided because it would require a lot of my mental energy. I stopped doing things that brought short-term enjoyment, but interrupted my life. I started talking with friends I haven't spoken to in years or spoken with family and friends on a quite scary personal level.
And, I just did things that were fun, but just for me. I watched movies that I wanted to watch, listened to LOTS of music and found a lot to help, especially newer stuff
Mat Kearney, Mumford & Sons, Passion Pit, Florence and the Machine, The Airborne Toxic Event, Eminem's newest CD - Recovery.
Now, I've moved on to focus on spirituality and being a great listener.
We are all great people, just not to each other sometimes. We are experience life in the way we want and in ways to make our own selves happy.
I wish you great joy sooner than you expect it again!