Hi, I'm in the first few days of my first serious relationship, and I was hoping for some dos/don'ts to help me along?
I just really want to make this work, so yeah... any help is appreciated.
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Some things that guys often forget:
-Remember to PLAN. Make sure you're the one who is planning exciting and fun dates all the time, and don't leave it up to her. Try to do different things, and take her OUT. Don't just lounge around at home watching movies all the time, although that can be fun every once in a while. Just make sure she is never bored with you.
-Occasionally do random, sweet things for her. For example, spontaneously bring her roses when you come to pick her up on a date. You don't always have to have a reason to remind her that she is special to you. Of course, don't do this all the time, as it will put a dent in your wallet. But occasionally never hurts. Once again, this will spark up the relationship.
-Make sure you take initiative. I always end up dumping a guy if I'm always having to contact him first or make the first move in a relationship. Be the one taking the both of you to the next step. Don't wait for her to do it.
-TELL her how you feel, and SHOW her how you feel. They are both equally important.
-If you fight, don't ever let the fight last very long, and don't ever let her sleep on it. Call her, even if its the middle of the night, just to work it out. Keep her on the phone until things are settled.
-To expand, don't be afraid of the words, "I'm sorry." They are key to any relationship. If you say these words when you are in the wrong, then your girlfriend will not only trust you and respect you more, but she will also be more comfortable saying those words when she is in the wrong.
-Respect her body. Remember to work at HER pace when it comes to the physical stuff, and never pressure her in any way.
-Pay attention to, and remember, the little things she says. My boyfriend always changes the radio when he knows that a song I dislike is on, and it means a lot.
Some examples of fun, cheap dates:
-Make a picnic and share it with her at the park.
-Make your own drive-in movie, using a bedsheet, a projector, and your garage door. Sit your car in the garage and watch the movie with her. A little popcorn doesn't hurt.
-My boyfriend once combined the two above. He got a movie on his iPad (but a laptop works too) and took me out to a local park, where we had a picnic dinner and watched a movie. How much did it cost him? Zero dollars. But I had a blast, and I thought it was really cute.
-Putt-putt golf is always cute. It costs some money, but if you can find a cheap place, go for it.
-Find the beauty in gift cards. If you have a gift card to a restaurant, then use it with her if you don't think she'll be offended. My boyfriend and I used my gift card to a nice restaurant for Valentines Day dinner. We also used our gift card to Coldstones for an ice cream dessert. Start asking your relatives for gift cards to these places for birthdays/holidays.
-If you live in a college town or near a college, oftentimes there are things to do nearby that are half-priced. For example, tonight I'm going to a two-dollar movie!0