In the past, I've only ever dated guys that are a little above average looking. Guys that loads of girls want to get with, or when I show pictures people are like "Oh, he's really good looking!"
I'm currently seeing this guy who I'm absolutely crazy about.
Now, please don't get me wrong, I am really not vain.
It's just, when I showed my best friend photos of this guy she said "Oh.. these aren't very good pictures of him, are they?" and I could tell by her voice that she thought I could "do better" or that he was unattractive.
He's the kind of guy that's average looking in the sense that he isn't the best looking guy, but his personality improves his appearance because he's just so popular, funny, intelligent and a genuinely nice guy.
I really am crazy about this guy, and he's into me also. I'm just worried about what my friends and peers will say behind my back - will they think I'm just "settling" for this guy, or think that I'm "desperate"? I don't want people thinking that. Because I DO really like this guy.
How can I STOP CARING about what other people say, and stop thinking about how average looking he is?
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Unlike other people, I think that it's fairly normal to care about what people think. Those who say it doesn't matter are lying to themselves.
But the fact of the matter here is that they only saw his picture. They don't know him personally like you do. Chances are that they will feel the same thing about him than you. I mean, you admit that he isn't a gorgeous guy, so what they are saying isn't surprising. But we are not rating a face year. Let them know the real guy and they will know you you would actually have a hard time "doing better".0